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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/BagAdmirable1996 on 2023-09-12 18:08:21.

I normally get along really well with my in-laws. My MIL is awesome, SILs and BILs and everyone else are just great people. We were headed out there way to go spend some time before school starts again and it lined up with when two other families were coming into town.

This meant that the bedrooms we’d normally stay in were packed, and while my husband and I had a room and a bed, our daughter (Cass, 8) didn’t have a spot to herself. My SIL suggested that she “just double up” with her cousins as some of the cousins would share beds.

Cass was not happy about this and did not want to. She was pretty adamant about it. She has never shared a bed with anyone, and I wasn’t about to force her to. I figured that us leaving to get a hotel a few miles away would free up some space and make it easier on everyone.

Everyone was really taken aback by this. They kept telling me that it didn’t make sense, it was spending money when we didn’t need to, and that it’s fine for them to share beds. I said I know it’s fine, but that Cass isn’t comfortable with it, and I’m not going to force her. They kept pushing back saying that “all girl share beds” and more stuff about how girls are used to seeing each other changing. They kept emphasizing that it’s normal and it’s weird for us to be upset about it.

They kept asking me why she was uncomfortable, and one of them even asked her in that way you know is meant to guilt them. Like “Why does this make you uncomfortable? Don’t you want to spend time with your cousins?”

We ended up getting the hotel room, but they brought it up every day and kept almost making fun of my daughter for not wanting to share a bed, indicating that she was “weird” and spoiled.

I’ve never in my life shared a bed with anyone other than someone I’m being romantic with. Even as a little kid, I’d never have shared a bed either. I didn’t change around other girls either except in gym class, where I’d generally change in the restroom because it felt really inappropriate. I didn’t think this was super weird, but the entire family (women at least) made me feel like I was some kind of freak for not forcing my daughter into it. AITA?