Hey, I feel your pain through the screen. Maybe lashing out at each other, trying to “own” (what horrible connotations!) each other is what got us here. I’m so sorry and have definitely been where you are, emotionally, for way too long. We can’t really control others. We can manage ourselves and our own emotions, though.

I was gifted these cards a couple of months ago by Caroline Myss, Archetype Cards. They have several archetypes in light and dark aspects, things we keep hidden from ourselves, about ourselves, and several blank to name the shadow archetypes within ourselves and a little booklet to help us do the work on ourselves. Maybe you have a used bookstore nearby you could see if they have any or post on Craigslist or something for a set, or if you have a birthday coming could ask to be gifted them when friends ask, like, “could you chip in”?

The thing about shadow work - it’s painful and messy and works best if you can do it when you’re feeling those awful feelings, which isn’t always possible. At least try to take time off screen to get the best rest you can, and try to get as balanced nutrition you can afford. I got 5 lbs of potatoes for $3, a small bag of baby carrots for $2.50 and a pound of frozen green beans for $1.25 at Dollar Tree (full of Steve and strings, but workable), and cooked then today in left over chicken broth from chicken I stewed earlier this week, and tossed in leftover chicken $6/5 lbs). I have leftovers for tomorrow and another container in the freezer for another day, plus gifted a neighbor s pint container. I know prices very wildly, but I live in a food desert, so a week’s with of meals, plus a pint to gift for about $20. My friend gifted me some small sweet potatoes from church, so I look forward to those, upcoming.