I have seen so many different approaches to dating be responded to by Lemmings as inappropriate or creepy, much of it hypocritical to other responses, but I digress: is there ANY appropriate way that everyone can agree on for men to approach having a relationship with women?
From the collective consciousness of Lemmy comments I have read, my impression is that the only appropriate thing is to be born into a marriage and never make any moves or even so much as look at a woman in your lifetime.
I mean, typically if you ask in a way that isn’t totally overwhelming and pushy and then accept a “no” when you get one, you’re going to be fine. Maybe if you get to know her at least a little first and feel things out before immediately throwing it out there you’ll have better luck, but I think for the most part if you’re respectful and considerate about it you’re not going to have too much backlash.
If this question is actually “how do I shoot my shot with zero chance of a negative reaction”, though, you kind of don’t. That’s part of the risk of putting yourself out there.