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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/LegitAndroidMay on 2023-08-31 22:15:03.

We’re both 24 and have been together for 3 month. Lately we started to spend more time in my apartment as it’s closer to both of our workplaces, and my bf has been on my case about buying things for my place since the beginning.

First he said ‘we’ should buy a rug for the bedroom, because he doesn’t like wearing slippers and the floor is cold in the mornings. I told him he’s welcome to bring a rug for his side. He didn’t.

Then he got annoyed that I don’t have a hair dryer and he always needs to bring his own. I have very short hair so I never needed one, and I told him I’m not going to buy one that I’m not going to use.

Then he started hinting that I should get a humidifier because the dry air hurts his throat. I didn’t even acknowledge that one.

The last one was the coffee maker that I didn’t have, because I don’t drink coffee. He drinks a lot so I relented on that one, but I bought a pretty cheap one, which is apparently not good enough, and he said he might as well ‘pour boiling water over a filter with a kettle’ (he has a crazy expensive machine at his place).

He says it should be basic decency to want to make your guests feel more at home, especially your partner, and while I agree to some extent, I really can’t afford to buy stuff I’m never going to use, especially since we’re still very much in the beginning of our relationship, and we don’t technically live together. Now I’m the AH because I clearly don’t take our relationship seriously enough if I’m not willing to invest in it financially. AITA here?