• wisely@feddit.org
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          3 hours ago

          My family all got married at age 16-18. I waited until age 22 and am still married nearly 20 years later while they are all divorced. Nothing wrong with waiting.

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            16 minutes ago

            I’m kind of sad that you haven’t changed enough to be incompatible with that person. The people I was into at 22 are not the people I am into now.

          • theonlytruescotsman@sh.itjust.works
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            I meant more the other direction. Marrying anyone under 30 is crazy. I’m glad it worked out for you but 22 year olds are children that sometimes get blackout drunk for fun. I remember myself and my dating age cohort at 22, any of us making any permanent decision is kinda crazy.

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        Yeah, I’d say so. At 22 the human brain isn’t even fully developed. Tim and his wife are children acting out some theatrics inculcated by their (almost always) religious community. Then again, I live in an American state that embraces education and critical thinking, so my assumption is ol Tim is from Utah, or some other regressive theocratic place where they’d rather nip autonomy in the bud and tether young people to a prescribed way of life that hasn’t otherwise existed outside of these antideluvian pockets for the last 70 years.

        But I’m probably reading too much into it.

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          8 hours ago

          This reads like a 16 year old posting a pseudo intellectual argument so they can feel smart.

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          9 hours ago

          People throughout history have been married way younger.

          It’s only a very recent phenomenon in 90% of the world that people don’t get married by 22. Even go back to the 80s and 90s which weren’t that long ago - getting married under 25 was exceptionally common

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            I used to think the women of the past were all married young or spinsters, from reading little house on the prairie and other books. But looked up my ancestors on that Mormon website and was surprised to find that most were 28, 29. Even going pretty far back. This was mostly the US (and this area before unification) and southern Europe though, don’t know that it can be extrapolated. I just didn’t expect it.

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              Even then would be pretty recent considering human history, and I have a feeling that like you said that’s very narrowed down through both region and religion.

              Though funnily enough I grew up (middle school and high school) with kids from 2 different Mormon families as two of my closest friends, and knew kids from 2 others. Each of those 4 families had a minimum of 5 kids, and each one of those kids as far as I know, both guys and girls, got married by 23.

              But it was normal in Europe to be betrothed as young as 5, and married at 12 or 13 for centuries.

              If you go to the east, Akbar the Great was married off at 9.

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                Yeah but I think “marriage” like that was a lot different from what we consider it to be now. More of a way to link families, not love matches or even “teams” on their own. Like it wasn’t for them, they were resources parents traded around in marriages and also fosterings, right?

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          9 hours ago

          this sounds kind of… completely crazy to be honest

          also, isn’t the human brain fully developed in most people by the age of 21? or it’s 25, i dont remember. but even if it is 25, 22 is really close. i see no problem in marrying at that age