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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Throwaway-account464 on 2023-08-30 09:17:48.

So I(33F) and my husband(34M) had an argument about the book I read to our 7 year old son. I’m using a throwaway account because I don’t like posting on my main.

The book I read to him is called “Moominland Midwinter” it is a book by finnish writer and illustrator, Tove Jansson. I was born and raised in Finland, I grew up with the Moomins and I really want it to be part of my son’s life too. But when my husband found out about it, he got really mad.

He said that “the illustrations were too scary for kids” and that he had done some research on Tove Jansson and found out she was queer. I asked him what was wrong with being queer and he said “Nothing is wrong with being queer, but people should stop showing things made by queer people to kids”.

I got really mad at him for saying something like that, I felt that it was very homophobic for him to say. So I got mad at him and we had a big argument. I told him that I wanted our son to be more connected with the finnish culture and heritage, and that the Moomins are a big part of it.

He told me that he “doesn’t care” and that he would not allow it since the finnish culture would “turn him into a homosexual”. When he said that I exploded and kicked him out of the apartment, I told him he’s not allowed to come back until I’ve sorted my feelings out and that he could stay with his parents in the meantime.

I feel so confused and angry at him, he has never said anything like that in the 11 years we’ve dated and I’m starting to wonder if I married someone that has put on a fake personality of some sort. This all happened yesterday and I haven’t talked to him since, I told one of my friends about it and she said that I overreacted and it isn’t that serious.

So now I’m here to ask, am I the asshole?