My husband of 17 years is a judge. Recently multiple people have come out publicly with their stories about my husband because all the complaints they have filed with the Council which deals with this have been ignored throughout the years - no investigation opened. My husband has always kept me in the dark about his work - finances, so let’s just say I have my reasons to believe the allegations. The most horrific one I’ve heard is my husband ruled that a 12-year-old consented to having sex with an adult (legal age of consent at the time was 15 in our country), so there was no conviction. The accused in this trial was wealthy. I didn’t know about this until now. Frankly I’m completely disgusted with him.
All divorces suck, but yours will be especially difficult. Your husband sounds like he has all the connections and resources to make it an absolute nightmare for you.
Maybe the press will pick up on that “defamation” lawsuit he’s filing. If the facts of the case are as clear as you say, perhaps public opinion will be on your side. I’d love it if you could use his own hubris to your advantage!
Regardless, you have my condolences. You’re in a terrible situation. I’d recommend therapy to help work through it. I wish you the best.