My husband of 17 years is a judge. Recently multiple people have come out publicly with their stories about my husband because all the complaints they have filed with the Council which deals with this have been ignored throughout the years - no investigation opened. My husband has always kept me in the dark about his work - finances, so let’s just say I have my reasons to believe the allegations. The most horrific one I’ve heard is my husband ruled that a 12-year-old consented to having sex with an adult (legal age of consent at the time was 15 in our country), so there was no conviction. The accused in this trial was wealthy. I didn’t know about this until now. Frankly I’m completely disgusted with him.

  • fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com
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    29 days ago

    Do you have anything like FOIA requests in your country? If so, you could request info such as rulings and potentially case details to understand more.

    I imagine being a judge is hard. Following a legal line exactly could easily look like corruption, and they could easily be unhappy with the decisions they had to make, which could also explain the rationale behind not wanting to talk about work.

    This is Lemmy, so you will defiantly get one-sided answers (not that they are wrong, because more often than not they are correct). So my suggestions:

    • Get more info
    • Use the finances as a discussion point. Not sure what divorce looks like there, but you need to be aware of your financial situation just in case. If he presses to keep it secret, he’s doing something bad. May not be what you think it is, but still bad. Use other means to figure out your finances.
    • Enhance your privacy and security. This post is everywhere now. Delete the content. Use Signal to discuss this, not text messages.
    • Listen to your gut, trust the evidence, and ignore the internet.
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      28 days ago

      If my partner was doing things they found morally repugnant at work, because they felt bound by rules, I’d consider that a big problem.

      A mature adult is supposed to decide which rules they follow.