So I’m the house keeper. Not a big deal. I love cooking and I love her response to the food I make.
At least three times a week, she tells me she felt bad that her coworkers didn’t have a lunch, so I adjusted my cooking so her coworkers would have some sort of lunch if they didn’t or couldn’t bring anything. All she needed to do was bring the leftovers that she could share, and I would leave a small plate for myself for lunch the next day. SHE TAKES MY FUCKING LUNCH I MADE FOR MYSELF AND LEAVES THE LEFTOVERS FOR 4 PEOPLE! It drives me fucking insane. Stop bitching about coworkers not having enough to eat if you’re not going to fucking help. It makes me so God damn angry because now this food is either sit and go bad or I have to eat the same meal twice a day. My fucking GOD!!!
I get what you’re saying, and I’ve cooled off. You’re right.
This is hard stuff. There’s nothing that seems natural about this. It goes against our very nature. However, seeking this understanding of your mate is an act of love. Knowing yourself and your needs, and those of your mate is a super power!
As long as you are both open with each other, and respect each others positions and needs, you are going to not only get through this but come out much stronger together on the other side. This is a small brick that builds a very strong foundation for your relationship with your mate. You’ve got this, man.