If someone was born without a leg you wouldn’t think “gee they must be dumb to not have figured out how to regrow their leg.” Autism is how you are from birth, it’s part of who you are, you can’t smart your way out of having autism any more than the other person can smart their way to regrowing their leg.
So can ballet, but there’s an upper limit for people. I could dump a lot of effort with seriously diminishing returns into social niceties, or I can accept this weakness and work around it as necessary. I choose the latter as the former is exhausting and unrewarding.
sure, i get what you mean. but consider this viewpoint. a paraplegic can practise pulling themselves up a stairway by using the handrails. it will work, but it’s not going to be neat, and it will painfully out that individual as disabled either way. or, (jn this analogy) the building owner could install an elevator…
yes, we should do our best to understand the basic social script - but i think society needs to “install more elevators” to make this process easier. there’s a certain point where, no matter how hard we try to learn the social script, we’re still autistic, we’re still going to be outed as “weird”, and that cold truth is just not going away, regardless of how much practice we put in.
personally, i think seriously trying to blend in, is a fools errand. save your energy ❤️
If someone was born without a leg you wouldn’t think “gee they must be dumb to not have figured out how to regrow their leg.” Autism is how you are from birth, it’s part of who you are, you can’t smart your way out of having autism any more than the other person can smart their way to regrowing their leg.
True. Social skills can clearly be practised and improved though
So can ballet, but there’s an upper limit for people. I could dump a lot of effort with seriously diminishing returns into social niceties, or I can accept this weakness and work around it as necessary. I choose the latter as the former is exhausting and unrewarding.
sure, i get what you mean. but consider this viewpoint. a paraplegic can practise pulling themselves up a stairway by using the handrails. it will work, but it’s not going to be neat, and it will painfully out that individual as disabled either way. or, (jn this analogy) the building owner could install an elevator…
yes, we should do our best to understand the basic social script - but i think society needs to “install more elevators” to make this process easier. there’s a certain point where, no matter how hard we try to learn the social script, we’re still autistic, we’re still going to be outed as “weird”, and that cold truth is just not going away, regardless of how much practice we put in.
personally, i think seriously trying to blend in, is a fools errand. save your energy ❤️