Dear linux users. Is it a red flag if she is active in a Catholic Dating group?
Edit:. and that she is still on reddit?
The ‘she’ part works for me!
Why would they need to date anyway? That’s just questioning God’s Plan for them.
It’s God’s way of training them for their true partner. Free will and all that. Now kisth.
God works in mysterious ways. Maybe their one and only, doesnt even use an iphone!
Yes. We only accept our true gods and leaders here: Linus, Richard, Tux and Xenia.
You mean Xena, right?
Oh. TIL. This fox is cute as well :)
Blazing red flag.
Run
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Ooh, I’m a cash cow apparently.
But seriously, are there really women who talk about men in those terms?
But seriously, are there really women who talk about men in those terms?
Yes. Personally, I see it as the mirror image of the “tradwife” thing where toxic men see their partner as a subservient maid. Seeing men as primarily an income source comes from a similar place imho.
These two groups deserve each other.
Yep, they’ve been called ‘gold diggers’, for quite a while now.
There is still a huge portion of American women across the political spectrum, across wealth classes, across religious or religious beliefs, who ultimately have a huge part of what they want in a partner be ‘how much stuff can he buy me’, who will bully or shame or guilt trip or emasculate or outright violently abuse their male partner, regardless of how hypocritical this is with their other espoused beliefs, to get them to pay for things for them or cover their debts.
Just get on tiktok or instagram, you basically can’t miss it.
Its more than just the opposite number of conservative tradwives. There are plenty of self described liberal or leftist, feminists or social activists of one kind or another that ultimately still want their male partners to provide far more for them than they provide for their partner.
That sounds like 99.9% of population in developing countries like mine
I don’t think that’s a fair comparison as Nerd is usually seen as a negative trait, where having good traditional traits is seen as a positive.
It’s taking a nerd and using that negativity despite not liking it to exploit gain.
Where as having traditional wife is choose a positive because you like that positive.
If I can’t be a milk cow, then at least let me be a cash cow
How did you find a picture of me?
You have never opened the box of “Female Dating Strategy”. Welcome to the world of “low value males”
Just looked through some of that stuff. Holy hell, it would be easier to be seen as without sin through the eyes of an angry old testament God than it would be to be seen as worthy of dating from that crowd. And that’s fine, because I would want less than zero to do with it.
(Assuming it’s real. Who knows? Could be a bunch of neckbeards cosplaying, but if I’ve learned anything in life, it’s that there are shitty shitty men in this world, and that there are equally shitty shitty women in this world)
Aww yea. Sounds like some rough femcel horse shit right there.
It exists?
Yeah, and we shouldn’t suppose women can’t degrade as much as men, that’s unfair. r/femaledatingstrategy had an overblown fame for being a femcel den before it got banned, you can read on them in the media. But you can discover more than that on chan-boards, as they are probably the origin of a lingvo natural to this discourse. Just like with in incels, there’s a typology of women and men adapted to biological and social context a typical ciswoman is in.
As for IRL, I’ve heard such terms only as a joke, but that means there’s some penetration into higher net.
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The “trad wives” (traditionalist / paleoconservative middle class women who believe that their religion is good for women) are looking for a husband in the traditional sense, a type of business owner / patriarch who owns them and provides for them; see: husbandry. That’s so that they can produce a lot of offspring while pretending that raising kids in near or full homeschooling is a good thing and she’s very successful (culturally).
They’re the homologues of incels and traditionalist bros who want to be rich so that they maintain some informal harem. And they deserve each other.
Every gold digger ever. Books about it, subreddits. You been living under a rock? Literally, good how to marry a rich man, and there will be digital or printed guidebooks
You have been sleep walking through life…
Idahoan here - yeah coming from a fairly mormon-laden family tree (and community), it’s pretty common around here. And like others said it typically goes both ways - the guys treat it like the gals are helpless without a man to carry the income. This place is fucking backwards and culturally prehistoric.
Don’t even get me started on the bigotry & maltreatment towards trans/gay folks. If there were a progress bar for moving toward healthy / compassionate behavior towards those groups this place would be at fucking 0%, genuinely. Obscenely disrespectful.
Lol this whole thread is so funny to me, as someone who regularly dates millionaires.
Ya’ll are not a cash cow. Don’t worry, real gold diggers go after gold. You’re safe from gold diggers. That of course does not make you immune from financial abuse but that’s different than gold digging.
Second, these dating forums are all roleplay. There’s a pretty big chance those are men role-playing as the greedy women of their stupid nightmares. No woman ever gets in proximity to a man only based on money. The idea is laughable to women. Even full service sex workers decline men and have actual correspondences with each other blacklisting men in the area to keep everyone safe. No woman ONLY cares about the money. They can’t afford to. However, men engaging with other men think like that because they don’t have to worry about the risk of violence as much. That’s why I think this is probably roleplay.
Third, I hear men talking about their potential future wives like this all the time, including financially, if they’d date a fat girl, if they’d date a girl who doesn’t do oral, etc etc etc. Even if women are doing this, men do it too (and i bet you never called it out). Marriage is a contract that ties finances together so it matters. Personally, I’m never getting married but for those who do, it can really affect their ability to get housing or other stuff. It’s a sad feature of capitalism.
And yes, capitalists gain a lot from this structure. They fish for sex workers in every industry, including modeling. This causes women to br traded like commodities and so the most valuable women per their standards they can eugenics into their line, will be the one they marry. A lot of men’s attraction for women is just based on how valuable she is as a human commodity. This is why “objectification” gets brought up so much.
https://youtu.be/3n-yU_BpA4M?si=-CwuVC_45nn5vKUD
Last, the above is the attitude of real gold diggers, which is open and frankly discussed with their actual source of gold. It is not financial abuse and to be clear financial abuse is wrong - it is instead a negotiation so that she can live at the same comfort level as him and enjoy her life. No rich man is confused about this. Most would be kinda embarrassed to not take care of her, like going to a fancy restaurant and she orders a small appetizer+water in her budget while he gets a wine tasting and a steak just makes him look bad. That’s how I know none of you are actually near this lifestyle, because you don’t innately understand this.
Again, I am not getting married, I’m never having kids, and I’m poly; I demand these aspects specifically to bypass the interpersonal dynamic of me being treated as a commodity, and instead this forces my partners and myself to love in the moment, to actively choose each other, and to give resources freely and not coerced through a contract.
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Waifus don’t count to normies.
That person should’ve seen how much gold I farmed in WoW using my Honorbuddy bot!
The messiest polycule breakup / explosion was a bunch of autistic IT workers around the DC area. Sub Dom drama plus one dude fucked his pesudo-girlfriends sister.
I’d just got back from working overseas and was renting a room in their house. Just kinda watching the whole thing burn. While getting back to normal.
Being poly doesn’t make relationships less real, how ignorant. She wasn’t a pseudogirlfriend. He was also a real piece of shit.
If he’s poly and and she’s poly and everyone knew everything, is it still awful of him to have sex with her sister? Seems like it’s OK if it’s OK with everyone, even if other people find it gross?
Why do people think poly=no boundaries?
I know of very very few poly people who would be okay with that. And even if they were, poly requires open communication, and he did it behind her back (which we know she wasn’t okay with it because it ended their relationship). So a double whammy.
Highly recommend the book Opening Up to understand how many different types of poly there are and what they might look like.
Sorry, I didn’t mean to cause offence at all, I just assumed that in a poly relationships the boundaries were open for negotiation, and that like you say open communication would be key. I didn’t know he went behind her back, I know nothing about this story other than what I read on this thread.
I get that in a conventional relationship, leaving someone for their best friend or their sibling would be a particularly heinous betrayal, but didn’t assume that that would be the same for someone in a poly relationship. I didn’t mean to offend anyone by asking and I apologise for any and all offence caused.
I get that and I appreciate how respectful you’re being. I think we can tell by the subtext that it wasn’t okay to sleep with her sister (they broke up over this, after all)… and also that is kinda soft incest (to share a sex partner between siblings) so majority of poly people in the west would really not be okay with it due to social norms.
Lol 🤣, wtf 🤣🤣🤣.
SpongeBob and Ariana Grande are exhibit A
A good catholic man would use TempleOS
There is also UbuntuCE (Ubuntu Christian Edition)
I don’t want to Google that.
Apparently, Catholic dating is all about money
Usually what they actually mean by “strong family values”
Found out the hard way to be honest…
Oh that’s what happened to RieserFS
An object lesson in bus factor.
In a confession Aug. 21, however, Reiser said he used “the most unsophisticated chokehold that any judo instructor would completely despise you for ever using,” according to a 30-page transcript obtained by The Chronicle
I probably shouldn’t laugh, but… :D
At least he critiqued his own work instead of assuming it was the best thing ever.
It’s a narcissistic attempt to diminish his culpability by saying it was a weak attack without special training.
Compare with “I barely even touched her!”
Should have defragged first.
anyone who picks at every little thing a partner or potential partner does by requiring the Internet to approve it is toxic as hell. asking the Internet if a behavior that doesn’t effect you is a red flag is a massive red flag.
TBF, if a potential partner is super excited about something you never heard of, looking into it is a good thing.
Conservatives, and other assholes, are good about hiding their crazy behind seemingly innocent things, like pepe the frog.
Where are the leftist pepe fans at?
I misread that as “Where are the leftist Pope fans at?” and thought Europe, but then I realised my mistake.
But why would your question be “is this bad?” Just learn a little about it and decide for yourself.
i mean, it’s more about letting the Internet decide for them. a person that is so incapable of making their own assessments that they have to ask a random mob permission to date another isn’t going to be a good person to date. didn’t be or date someone that would trust random Internet weirdos who collectively have an incredibly awful track record of giving advice over just talking about it or doing some reading.
I like my women like I like my distros. Stable.
Dangit, and here I am running arch btw
Might need some therapy
I can fix her
Nerds fix stuff around the house? Girl, I couldn’t even repair that plumbing if I wanted to. This is a job for a professional.
It says a lot that when I read that my first thought was “oh so like keeping the self hosted services running and whatnot” for a second 😅
this would work on me tbh
Nerd here that was EXTREMELY disappointed in losing the opportunity to own a house.
I wanted to get into the home electronics/plumbing stuff. Although to be honest, I am less keen on the plumbing since it’s a wet mess.
We like to mix water and electricity anyway, like pipewire
Still don’t get the name…
Yeah, PoW (Power over Water) is awesome! I use it everywhere.
Oh, the wetness is far from the worst part.
Depends if you are messing with blue pipes or black ones.
Mine are all copper and iron.
Beats lead…
Let’s not monopolize the word nerds for us computer nerds. There are also engineering nerds for example, the guys that have 2 3d printers, 3 CNC machines, and a few industrial robot arms in their garage so that they can build the tiniest bike ever.
Nerds of all sciences unite!
Actually, some nerds are handy with electronics and stuff like that, myself included.
It could be even worse. Some needs enjoy to learn things, anything. Doesn’t,t matter if it’s NixOs or plastering.
This is me. Software developer by day, endless diyer and hobby starter by night (at least on nights when I’m not dissociating on the couch)
Oh yeah, I love learning things. It doesn’t mean I love actually doing them.
Average Reddit moment
Wait, this is why she chose me?
I actually know this for a fact.
Too bad for her I don’t make a lot of money 🤷.
Windows is Christianity
Apple is some strange cult
Linux is Nihilism
Why is Linux Nihilism?
Because if you’re evolved enough to use Linux, you realize how shitty the human race is.
All my friends and family, even I myself happen to be humans. That’s mean.
Sorry for being blunt.
Because the distro is nothing without the kernel, the kernel is nothing without the distro, a PC is just for getting shit done of have “fun” and you should stop wasting your time on Lemmy
Why not?
Why is she even asking the question? Shouldn’t she just be quiet and submit like her magic book tells her to?
Going on Reddit for dating advice is a mistake.
“Neckbeards unite! We have some advice to give!”
I’m a nerd and dirt poor, what am I doing wrong?
you may have yourself checked, you may be a dork, which is a nerd without marketable abilities
Oh shit
You’re not doing work around the house.
Follow me for more insightful thoughts 👍.
You need to install Linux for the money to come.
Okay, I’m putting together a second PC for Linux Mint, especially as I need Linux for testing.
take stuff apart and put it back together. install obscure operating systems. build a network and servers for just yourself. put multiple operating systems on the same computer. repair a broken laptop or phone. just fun things like that
Any pointers how to get into FreeBSD? I might need that for my game engine, especially as two of the main three consoles nowadays use some heavily modified versions of it (even if unfortunately I have to provide them as closed-source addons to the engine, since neither Sony nor Nintendo don’t like open sourcing their stuff).
easiest would be to install it on a ras pi: https://freebsdfoundation.org/freebsd-project/resourcesold/installing-freebsd-for-raspberry-pi/
another easy way to get started is to install it in a VM. once you have the process down, you could try installing it to a secondary disk or partition on hardware.
Nerding. Duh.
