- there’s a guy I’d like to know, we bump into each other sometimes. Last time I actually thought he was excited to see me but not sure of course… my self esteem is a rollercoaster.
- I can’t actually pursue something “serious” right now so I’d like to know him but in the most casual way possible. Just thinking about asking him out makes me feel sick
- this isn’t just about him but in general, what can I do, I really don’t know how to deal with myself.
I’m 26 and really need all help possible. I’m in a bad place at the moment and I didn’t even wanna post this… but a friend once told me to not let all areas of my life fall apart. Wish I had listened. Really just give me any advice you feel like giving me, it would be appreciated.
Thank you! :) I just hope I don’t bother him… cause I’m afraid he can tell I’m attracted and being that I’m not sure about him reciprocating… I don’t want him to feel forced to be nice or something
You’re welcome! And, honestly, having the awareness of possibly bothering him is half the battle of engaging with him without doing so. Trust yourself! Also, in that event, what if he doesn’t feel forced to be nice, but is actually just nice? In my experience, it still feels very flattering despite any awkwardness. The hardest part of things like this is waiting for the opportunity, try not to worry too much about outcomes in the meantime — you got this!
Maybe he feels the same way and is similarly scared? We often get so lost in ourselves we don’t stop to think how the other may be similarly panicking inside. Maybe you’re both the same internally =)