• coyotino [he/him]@beehaw.org
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    14 days ago

    i feel fortunate to have both of my parents still with me. Not sure how far out you are from that loss, but my understanding is that it’s a grief that never leaves you. My best friend lost their dad 5 years ago, and they STILL have enough feelings about it to fill an entire poetry book (after previously filling a separate poetry book in the 2 years immediately after).

    you’re still allowed to be sad about it and have a hard week about it, no matter how long ago it happened <3

    • trev likes godzilla@beehaw.org
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      14 days ago

      Thanks coy, I really do appreciate you taking the time to send some kindness my way. And that’s true, it does get easier but it never really goes away, nor should it I guess. You’re good people <3

      • rozwud@beehaw.org
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        14 days ago

        When my dad passed away a few years ago, a friend who had been through the same described it to me as waves of grief that get further apart. I’ve found that to be true. Your mom will always be with you but also not, and that absence can be incredibly painful sometimes.