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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/SlowRecording9146 on 2023-10-02 01:26:24.

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I am a married woman with a husband who sometimes makes jokes that bother me. He says it’s just a joke and that I shouldn’t take it seriously, but I think he’s being disrespectful.

Last weekend, we went to a family gathering at his parents’ house. During a private conversation, he made a joke that really upset me. He said I should stay in the kitchen with the other women and make lunch for him and the men in the family because that was my role. He laughed at his own joke and expected me to laugh too, but I didn’t find it funny at all.

I got angry and told him he was being sexist and that I wasn’t his maid. He said I was overreacting and that it was just an innocent joke. He said I had no sense of humor and that I should relax.

I walked away from him and went to the living room. His sister (my sister-in-law) noticed that I was upset and asked me what had happened. I told her the truth, and she was furious. She said her brother was an idiot and that she was going to talk to him. She told the other women in the family what he had said, and they were all outraged. They all went to talk to him and criticized him for the sexist joke. He felt embarrassed and tried to justify himself, but no one accepted it.

When we got back home, he sulked and said that I and the women in the family took his joke too seriously. He said it was just a joke, and I shouldn’t have said anything. AITA?