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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/MobileAdvance1625 on 2023-09-17 20:18:43.

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Throwaway for privacy. My ex (44M) “Max” and I (44F) had our daughter “Annie” (28F) when we were 16 and split up a year later. I married my late husband when Annie was 2, but she was difficult and they didn’t have a good relationship. We were constantly in court fighting to keep her with us when she was younger.

Annie and I’s relationship is rocky at best. I wasn’t invited to her wedding in 2019 and I didn’t know my first grandchild was born last year until my ex posted about being on ‘grandpa duty’ on social media.

Last week Max posted a photo of himself on fb in front of a new house, which I knew he couldn’t afford. Later he added another picture of him with Annie, her husband, and their daughter, thanking them for their gift. I saw red. Max doesn’t need a house, he has no wife or children. Annie has four siblings who would have appreciated this gift far more than him. I know this was an intentional move to continue to drive home how much she loves that my ex is still focused solely on her.

I called and yelled at her, and told her she needed to stop punishing me for moving on with my life and start being a decent sister. She should be willing to share any blessings she has with her entire family, not just one person. She said nothing, but after I hung up she blocked me. Max called me after and yelled at me for being ‘cruel’. He said that Annie and her husband can do whatever they like, and that Annie has no reason to take care of my children for me. I told him he poisoned my daughter against me and that she is who she is because of him. I don’t think I did anything wrong, but my friends think I went too far and I need to apologize to Annie.

Edit: For context, she knows we have been struggling financially since her stepfather’s passing. I’ve brought it up with her anytime we’ve finally managed to be in communication.