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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Altruistic_Ad_9877 on 2023-08-30 20:45:25.

So I (30F) am getting married to my partner (30M) next week and we have decided that since we have to pay for it and we come from big families, we opted to have a small function of only our closest family and friends and to keep it quiet so we didn’t offend anyone who wasn’t invited. Somehow even though my wedding was supposed to be a secret, somehow people found out about the upcoming wedding and have been messaging me asking questions. I found out my sister (36F) has been inviting people who weren’t invited to the wedding, to the wedding reception/ drinks without me or my partners knowledge. She didn’t have any problem inviting her friends and a bunch of family who are not invited. I private messaged her and told her that she crossed the line inviting and telling people about the wedding and she went into a meltdown saying she wants out of the bridal party, she doesn’t even want to come to the wedding and that “your wedding isn’t even that special”. I agreed and crossed her out of the line and removed her from my guest list but now I’m being told by my family that I’m acting like an AH and taking it too far removing her from the whole function altogether. AITA?