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I’ve got a good memory, but talking with my partner he will often say “I told you this before” and it’s just completely gone over my head cause I’ve been slightly distracted. I’ll be listening but things don’t seem to register and it’s worse when I’m distracted by the fact that I am having to put so much effort into listening. Edit: typo

They call it pop here in North-East of England as well.

I wasn’t a black out drunk, mainly cause it didn’t take much to make me drunk, but I couldn’t stop once I started either. First I hold out on drinking during the week, then I’d have drinks on the evening, then a drink before work then decided to quit before it got further out of hand.

I hope you find the motivation to quit cause honestly drinking is such a waste of time. I genuinely believe all you need is to believe you can.

I enjoy washing dishes, but only once I’ve started or when I don’t have to do it… So I try and trick myself into thinking I’ll just wash a few things, half-assing something is better than not doing it at all, right? I end up usually washing most or all of it anyway. I can do it scatterbrained, like wash some, dry some, put some away, wash a few more. I don’t have to focus on just washing. And I’ll sing along to the radio and look through the kitchen window and see what the dog is doing.

I also put the dish washing liquid into a pump dispenser and inside the handle of the dish sponge to make the process easier.

I work in a care home. I also have that thought every single day.

Stimulate me but don’t over stimulate me, maybe?

I’ve heard good things about thundershirts (weighted coats to make them feel cuddled) and happy hoodies (tube hat to cover their ears). My sister tried a thundershirt for her puppy that was afraid of thunder and it helped quite a bit.

I’ve gotten into a habit of “I’ll do it right now so I don’t have time to become anxious” and so I’ve gotten better about making calls now.

I am managing and kind of not managing really. Recently quit smoking and vaping and went off coffee so my brain has been a bit frazzled. But it’s getting back to normal.

Biggest help is working longer hours but fewer days and having my shift segmented so that I get downtime between busy hours. I do three days a week and on a workday don’t pressure myself to do any housework. On my days off I’ll catch up on sleep and housework.

I also have a diagnosis for autism so to me it seems like I can manage some symptoms of my ADHD easier thanks to ASD. But I also then seek a simple life and don’t do anything much besides work and looking after my dog and my partner. I’ll go out when I’m on holiday.

No use crying over spilt (choccy) milk

We have our arguments as well but we’ve gotten a lot better at arguing, now we can sort of pull back and express how we feel about the issue, not that the other person must be wrong for disagreeing.

And you’re right, I would’ve had a lot bigger dent on that confidence before and now instead of wallowing in it for ages I’ve grown angry cause I know I’ve not been treated right.

I’ve slowly built up confidence working with people and being more social and felt like my feelings and opinions were respected, but then had them outright ignored. I don’t know if I’m still bitter thinking that a coworker I thought of as a friend is less so a friend but at the same time it’s given me a push to apply for jobs higher up in my career since I don’t need to feel like I’m leaving my friends behind. I’ve been thinking I need another year before I’d feel confident enough to train to be a nurse rather than a carer but I might just find out if I can start sooner.

I’ve got the same issue but with all black socks

You’ve seen right through me with this comment. So many clothes I feel awkward in and yet I know I’ll need them when I’ll struggle to do the laundry. And some clothes I feel like I could improve by removing that ruffle of the neckline or shortening the hemline.

And of course the sewing machine needs adjusting so one doesn’t simply start sewing…

Occasionally I admit defeat and have to throw out projects that just aren’t getting finished. And tell myself not to even start some, just give it away to someone who might like it as it is, and I think being able to control that impulse and admit my shortcomings is something.

Less inventory definitely makes life easier, sharing a house or a flat meant I could only have my projects in one room, now they’re sprawling a bit again. I think I need to take my partner’s annoyance to heart and limit my project space to one corner.

Hmm, struggling to think of the biggest positive at the moment since I’m feeling quite low. I guess the connection I have with my autistic partner feels so much more rewarding when I get misunderstood so often.

The worst part for me has to do with the combination of rejection sensitivity, the anxiety it causes and how it’s given me low confidence that I’m trying to build up. After feeling confident for quite awhile I’ve had a bit of dent on it and now it feels so much harder to get up again.

Love a bit of blue cheese, pineapple and ham on my pizza (and not that uncommon in Finland), but I have actually had it with shrimp added and that was quite nice.

Agreed on visual clutter being so stressful! I feel like I cleared out so much junk in the last move and have moved quite frequently but somehow there’s always more stuff around. My poor partner likes to have a lot of clothes and I don’t want to go and throw out his suits and vests even though he doesn’t wear them (with the pandemic and all), but now they’re in a box in the corner of the living room and hung up in the bedroom and I can see them every time I go by! And I know there’s a cheap second hand warehouse store nearby so I could get all kinds of storage but it feels like a whole mountain to climb.

I feel called out by the clutter bug Bee description. I have organised chaos on top of every available table top, I know where everything is but my partner has no idea where anything is (I mean he loses things on his desk as well and I know what’s in his desk drawers). I can keep drawers vaguely tidy but hate these old deep drawers that make stuff pile on top of stuff rather than having their own place, so anything that doesn’t fit goes on top of a desk.

It was actually easy when we got a puppy and everything had to be out of reach, but she’s learn not to grab anything so I don’t even have that as a motivator.

The only meal prep I used to do was big soups, easy to freeze and get different size of meals. I’d normally just peel and cut up potatoes, throw in a pot, boil, add frozen veg, add fried mince and seasonings.

Very cool! Love a small table.

Then sometimes you just wanted to ask what something means and your partner is so used to you asking them to repeat they repeat what they said and no w everyone is confused.