Dad; husband; software developer.

Reddit refugee trying out the fediverse.

Full stack developer. Primarily work with C#/.NET, and Vue.JS. Lately I’ve been learning Rust and loving it!

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  • About a decade ago, I was renting a room from a couple I was friends with. One of them went to a hairstylist and during the appointment said to her “I don’t have any girl-friends, do you want to hang out some time?”. Well that hairstylist said yes and they made plans to go snow tubing a few weeks later. I was supposed to go with them but came down with a cold. I still wanted to meet this new girl so I came down to see them off. That’s when I met the woman that would eventually become my wife and the mother of my child!

    I had never been more upset that I was sick than that day lol







  • If you asked me growing up, I would have said that I’m a Christian. I was surrounded by Christians, my family were Christians, and I went to church almost every Sunday until I was 18.

    But I never truly believed. I always felt something was wrong with it all, that it just made no sense. I looked around at my peers and thought “why don’t I feel god in me like everyone else?”. I wanted to believe so desperately that it made me feel like there was something very, very wrong with me.

    I thought “well maybe it’s because I go to a non-denominational church” so I asked if we could go a southern baptist church instead. Nothing. Then I thought “maybe I need to be more involved in the church”, so I went to Bible studies every week and volunteered for mission trips and vacation Bible school. Nothing. Then I thought “maybe it’s because I was never baptized”, so I got baptized. Nothing.

    After years of this, I was anxious, depressed, and suicidal. It wasn’t until I moved out and went to a school across the country that I could finally admit to myself that I just didn’t believe and I likely never would.

    After many years of self-reflection and deconstruction I am finally happy and in a place where I feel like I am living my authentic life. I’ve never been happier.

    Forcing kids into religion is fucked and does damage to them that lasts for years, if not a lifetime.