Different people have different risk tolerances. I have two kids. My spouse cares that I wear proper protective gear (and so do I!) but otherwise doesn’t try to restrict me. That said I have rather less time with kids than I did before we had 'em. :)

Well, that sucks. But I’m not going to tell you to pick a hobby over the woman you love. There are plenty of other things you can do that won’t scare the pants off her. :)

Motorcycling. You’re old enough to not do the stupid shit that gets young riders killed.

Take the MSF’s beginner course (or your country’s equivalent), spend more on your helmet, jacket and gloves than you do your first bike, and have fun. Spend as much on your helmet as you think your brain is worth.

Remember, you’ll drop your bike, so start with a cheap used one. After a year (or less) with it you’ll have a better idea of what kind of riding you like, and that will inform your choice of second bike.

You’ll drop that one too, by the way. Don’t sweat it. Maybe buy spare brake and clutch levers.

Find a local moto community. Maybe get an intro to the Denizens of Doom. Heck, even a Facebook group can do the trick. You’ll meet new people and make new friends, while learning from people who’ve been riding for decades.

If you survive your first year (you will), you’ll also have become a far better car driver. Riding without a safety cage around you does wonders for situational awareness and risk awareness.

Last note: the car drivers are trying to kill you. They may not realize this, but you should. You’re invisible to them. Ride with a healthy dose of paranoia. But smile. You’re having fun.

Follow-up: I have Caddy working!

Here’s my baseline before starting:

• Services running on my NAS already configured
• Domain names & DNS already hosted at Porkbun
• Dynamic DNS in place using https://hub.docker.com/r/qmcgaw/ddns-updater
• DNS includes wildcard support, so I can easily use anything.mydomain.net

After briefly trying out a couple of somewhat ingrated Caddy projects others have done, I decided they were too specific to their set-ups and did not make my life easier. I tossed them out and went simple. I wanted something super easy to understand, and thus easy to troubleshoot.

First I set it up in Docker. I created a really, really simple docker compose file:

version: "3.7"

services:
  caddy:
    image: caddy:alpine
    restart: unless-stopped
    ports:
      - "1080:80"       # Because Synology DSM reserves 80 for itself
      - "10443:443"     # Because Synology DSM reserves 443 for itself
      - "10443:443/udp" # Because Synology DSM reserves 443 for itself
    volumes:
      # next four lines are default
      # - $PWD/Caddyfile:/etc/caddy/Caddyfile
      # - $PWD/site:/srv
      # - caddy_data:/data
      # - caddy_config:/config
      - /var/docker/caddy/config/Caddyfile:/etc/caddy/Caddyfile
      - /var/web:/srv # serve this by default?
      - /var/docker/caddy/data:/data
      - /var/docker/caddy/config:/config

volumes:
  data:
    external: true
  config:
    external: true

(If the machine you are running Caddy on doesn’t reserve ports 80 and 443 for itself like Synology DSM does, you don’t need the ridiculous high ports I mapped. Just do 80:80 and 443:443.)

Then I created a simple Caddyfile.

web.fakeme.net, www.fakeme.net {
	# This connects to the default Synology web service
	reverse_proxy 192.168.2.15:80
}

This tells Caddy: When you get a request for web or www, send it to the machine at 192.168.2.15 using port 80.

Then I added to it, one service at a time to make sure things worked at each step

paperless.fakeme.net {
	reverse_proxy 192.168.2.15:8008
}

whoami.fakeme.net {
	reverse_proxy 192.168.2.15:8009
}

comics.fakeme.net {
	reverse_proxy 192.168.2.15:8010
}

plex.fakeme.net {
	reverse_proxy 192.168.2.15:32400
}

speedtest.fakeme.net {
	reverse_proxy 192.168.2.15:8011
}

You’ll note I am doing nothing fancy here – no hostnames, no dynamic Docker container checks, none of that crap. It’s brittle but it is dead simple.

Now that I have something simple working, I can get fancier if I feel like it.

reddit’s r/homelab and r/selfhost were my go-tos, but Spez decided to kill the golden goose, so I left. I’ve been trying to help the Kbin and Lemmy communities grow, but we’ll see how it goes…

Oh! Also Tildes! It’s been established for a while but the user base isn’t huge since it’s still in beta. LMK if you’d like an invite.

I did find this there… indicating there is some activity around self-hosting:
https://tildes.net/~comp/16yc/self_hosters_share_your_reasons_for_self_hosting_and_favorite_apps

This may help: https://caddy.community/t/using-caddy-as-a-reverse-proxy-in-a-home-network/9427

I am just starting the same journey and have also experienced the lack of good guides for noobs. Most guides are on integrating more complex setups.