• meep_launcher@lemm.ee
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    While I had a lot of things that made me angry at my mom in my early 20s, I realized she did this with me with my music. Sometimes she still would suggest I go into sales and get a big boy job and get down on me for my choices, but I also know on her good days she was super supportive. The last panel is word for word what she would say.

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      Wanting you to have a stable career as well as a passion hobby are not incompatible. It’s when you want to make your passion hobby your profession, when the chances are extremely low of being successful, that you get conflict.

      I don’t know anything about your relationship, but it’s likely the negativity comes from a place of wanting you to have a comfortable, practical life.

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        Oh yeah I’ve had that conversation over and over. I’m well aware of the reality of a profession in music, but I also have realized in the 10 years I spent in corporate America that I can’t live that life.

        Someone said “don’t get a career in the arts until you’ve exhausted all other options”. It was annoying to have to constantly convince my mom that I was deeply unhappy in those roles, but she’s come around a bit more especially because I’m actually finding success following my passion.

        It’s a rough road for sure, but I’ve found avoiding unhappiness is not the road to happiness.

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    Maaaan I wish I had an environment like this at home when I was a kid… I always like to imagine how nice the feeling of safety must be for kids with a nice family. Well… For ppl like myself, let’s hope that we can be the family we wish we had…

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      For ppl like myself, let’s hope that we can be the family we wish we had…

      A thousand times this! My family sucked at being supportive. But if anything, they taught me what not to do as a parent.

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        But if anything, they taught me what not to do as a parent.

        Hehe yeah, that’s the unfortunate silver lining…

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          On that note, both my parents were physically abused as kids, but never laid a hand on me or my siblings. Like most parents, they weren’t great at parenting, but I am thankful I never had to be really afraid of my parents.

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      Man, growing up I rarely had hobbies. Just study or nothing. Even then, I remember being scared of my mom if I slipped even just a little. That translated to the fact that now, if I get rejected from a job, I feel like worthless garbage. I am unemployed for last 10 months or so and the toll is high.

      I really wish my mom was supportive of me, but well that’s the past, I guess.