Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I’m wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.

I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don’t want to risk it.

  • OneWomanCreamTeam@sh.itjust.works
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    7 months ago

    I’m a bisexual trans woman. I’ve dated men and women while presenting as male, and as presenting as female. In my experience the whole “not picking up on hints/not leaving strong enough hints to be picked up on” thing is not a gendered issue.

    Honestly I really don’t think men and women are as different as they appear.

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      7 months ago

      It’s the roles that’s different. Men are the ones who are supposed to detect and then transform hints into direct communication.

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      7 months ago

      After 34 year, i think my husband is tired of hints. Recently he said, "i don’t know what you’re talking about. If you want (do it), touch my (junk).