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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/AirSignificant4781 on 2023-08-02 19:57:36.

I f26 went on a “family trip” with my inlaws 2 weeks ago. MIL always thought that I am a bit “ignorant” and “backward” and that just because I come from lower class family (compared to hers) that I have no attiquette.

After we arrived to the hotel, They arranged to visit a fancy restaurant for dinner, My husband avoid telling me and I learned it last minute after he had already got dressed. I asked where he was going and he said he & family were going to eat out but I wasn’t invited because his mom “assumed” that since I wouldn’t be familiar with the food and “how to eat it” it there at the restsurant, then it’s better for me to stay-in and eat at the hotel. I didn’t argue I just let him go then I packed and took the first flight home. He freaked out and called many times and when he found out that I went home, he blew up snd called me ridiculous and irrational to do this. Even said that I acted in an ungrateful manner and embarrassed him infront of his family after he literally begged to have me go on the trip. We argued and he started giving md silent treatment after he came home. Moreover, his family are indirectly criticizing me on facebook about what I did.

Did I overeact?

  • RailisonEnglish
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    1 year ago

    WTF is wrong with all these people? No communication and constant deceptions.

    Ok the husband is the AH because he’s playing into his MIL’s exclusion tactics and keeping the dinner secret from his own wife.

    But likewise, so much drama could’ve been prevented if OP said, when she found out, that this made her feel uncomfortable and excluded her. And that she would consider noping out of the trip if he and his family did this to her.

    I am with OP on her decision, just not how she went about telling people. But maybe she wanted to stir up some drama.