I used to be one then had to become the other.
Becoming a father has challenged my sleep schedule to change. I’m still naturally a night owl, but now I have more respect for my need to sleep early.
I’ve always been a night owl, and getting into my 30s I had to adjust for an earlier schedule. But it usually takes about 3 days of no strict schedule where I’m back to going to bed late—but I never wake up past like 8/8:30. Usually putting me between 6-8hrs of sleep. But no matter what time I wake up, I’m always of the “it’s only 10:30” camp. Because I like my mornings slow, and when I have an early call time, 10:30 is still mid morning. So, I’m at work at 5? It’s almost lunch at 10, but it’s still only 10.
You forgot the part where the early bird tells the night owl they’re “lazy” for sleeping so late, which is complete and utter bullshit because you both slept the same amount.
My wife falls asleep at 10pm, wakes up at 8am (10 hours sleep). I fall asleep at 2am and get up at 9am (7 hours sleep) and she says “must be nice”. 🙄
So how’s the divorce process going?
Nah, she’s ridiculous sometimes, but she’s stuck with me. Not for the least of which that we are 8 months into our first pregnancy.
Oh so neither one of you are going to be getting much sleep soon anyway
Correct
Congrats btw!
We don’t say congratz, we say “Good luck”
When she has to hand you the kid to (understandably) take a nap because she’s accustomed to more sleep…
“Must be nice 🙃”
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I just want my partner to be conscious for 12 hours a day :( being awake only from 9pm-6am is a LOT of sleep for a night owl
Lol your partner wakes up at 9pm??? Also that’s 15 hrs of sleep a day, daaaang I can barely sleep 12 hrs and that’s if I’m up for like 2 days straight
Yeah, anywhere from 12-15 hours a day. Scheduling a sleep study is quite difficult when the patient is in their twenties, our current insurance says it isn’t needed.
Are they on their phone at all during the asleep hours? Any signs of depression?
I ask this as a night owl. I usually sleep for about 7 and a half hours, but when I wake up I grab my phone and have been known to sit there and scroll for at least an hour. If I lay there long enough there’s a good chance I get drowsy and fall asleep again for anywhere from 30 minutes to another full sleep cycle (1.5 hours for me)… And then I’m usually drowsy AF the rest of the day.
And the depression thing… Well… I’d think it’s obvious why I’m asking, but yea… Worth bringing up.
Yes, it is a current struggle we are both overcoming while we search for affordable healthcare to get a sleep study done. We think she has sleep apnea which also leads to terrible sleep quality, and the phone-in-bed thing is… a work in progress lol
The phone thing… Why not make it a mutual rule of no phones in bed? Like if you want to be on your phone, that’s fine, but go sit in the living room or something? I’m assuming you’ve communicated with her about wanting more time with her during the day?
The sleep study is tough, I don’t even think that’s the expensive part of the whole equation.
Good luck to you. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out!
And the correct thing is that the night owl wakes up late and takes the kids into daycare and the early bird finishes work early and collects them. Unlike my so who has me do both.
“Oh I’m such a morning person”
Really woman?! Wtf am I getting kicked out of bed at 06:30 to make breakfast then?!
Unless I’m really tired for some reason I usually go to bed between 1am and 3am. I get up around 8am. This is just how my brain works lol
I exercise most days, and aside from a cup of coffee in the morning I don’t really drink caffeine. If I go to sleep before 1am though I will wake up at like 4am and just be tired and cranky for the whole day after that.
I’m 42 and I’ve been like this since I was a teenager lol
Same
In case neither of you are aware.
Meanwhile I have the I need 10 hours daily gene. This hasn’t changed since I was like 8 years old.
Thankfully the prescribed amphetamines help.
For some people this works well. I am an introvert, and my alone time is necessary. Having a part of the day only for me is helpful. My partner feels the same way. Our schedules are mostly dictated by work, so we sometimes move closer together schedule-wise on the weekends. It’s a good balance for us, and we complement each other more because of it.
When I’m with other people, I’m “It’s already 8pm.”
When I’m alone I’m more like, “It’s only midnight.”
This is me.
I get up and tell my wife “I’m going upstairs” then she asks for the time and it’s 9:35 or so, but it’ll be 10 after I brush my teeth and read a little. I don’t know when she gets to bed because I’m usually asleep.
I used to be a night owl, but today the sun guides all my actions.
And sometimes they are each other.
To be fair, fucking your spouse to a blissful post-nut slumber before showering and continuing your “day” a while longer is always an ego boost.
“Hm, I wonder which one I am,” he wrote at 1:30am.
We’re not like this about bedtime, but we are about sleeping in. My wife “sleeps in” until 8:30 on the weekend. Me? I try to be up by 11:30 or so, and even that’s not guaranteed.
I am both of these people:-|.
And then there’s me who says oh no it’s already ten pm and then immediately after days oh it’s only 10 it’s okay and then stays up even longer
Can confirm.
When I was a kid I was a night owl. Then I grew up and got a career. Now I’m in bed by 10-11.
Haha I just sleep at 3am and wake up at 8am. I’m slowly dying send help
Same here, but I hate it. My body clearly fights against me and when I take time off I naturally drift towards my preferred sleeping schedule.
I wish I had the option to adjust my work schedule, but I don’t. (Inb4 “get a new job” without any consideration for why I might not be able to do that or why that might not get me the result I want.)
