• maegul (he/they)@lemmy.ml
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    10 months ago

    I feel like it’s not spoken about enough. There’s something fundamentally weird and off about driving around town in a car. You don’t really see it until you stop using a car for a while and then get back into one … it’s a weird experience … more weird IMO than flying on a passenger jet.

    Also the deep frustrations built into the experience. Traffic, stop lights, navigating obstacles, bad drivers, pedestrians etc, while in a car that is relatively big, sometimes too big for its environment and that naturally wants to go much much faster than is often practical or safe. It can really be maddening. We talk about road rage in terms of how crazy some people must be, when in reality it’s obviously the experience of driving that’s like being forced to play an unenjoyable video game … all the time.

    In retrospect I think the future will look weirdly on the idea that we all did this all the time and how stressful it must have been to do something that takes up so much of our time and to do something so dangerous everyday.

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      10 months ago

      Yeah exactly. Taking mass transit like trains and planes is mindless and communal and you can pay attention to or ignore what you’re passing. Driving leaves you having to pay a little attention to it, but only a little and you’re in control but not like “I can stop and enjoy the sights or easily duck out for a breather level of in control. And yeah that really gets to the point of it, cars are extremely anti social. You’re left outside the experience of community with them.

      And you’re exactly right. It’s low level stress. To do anything or go anywhere and it has a ton of perks but they’re all relative to how many people drive. If society is built around an assumption of cars, bus service is at best decent but inconvenient and restrictive with no sympathy to transit related issues. If you’re one of the few drivers it’s just way faster because the roads let you do it. But for every perk there’s cost and it compounds across all of us until our cities are filled with parking lots and we don’t know our neighbors’ faces

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        10 months ago

        To respond to you and the sibling comment about actually enjoying cars … the low level stress also includes the possibility of becoming high level stress.

        Experience driving was brought up, and so it’s worth asking who here has experienced or seen what bad accidents look like. I’ve seen a fair few, some horrific, been a passenger when someone was hit (they were fine fortunately) and myself have accidentally run over my own cat (they survived but their leg was never the same … though in the moment I could only imagine the worst). It builds up over time as you realise how fundamentally dangerous these things are especially once you realise that there are naive pets and children around, or that more than many things in our lives, death is a single mistake away.

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      10 months ago

      I think off driving like having to navigate an obstacle course and if you mess up once you’re financially screwed. driving is such a hassle, and everyone kinda knows it. why do people like to do big ass grocery hauls if it’s supposedly so convenient to drive? because it’s actually a pain in the ass. the only fun driving is rural/road drip driving and that’s a whole other story

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      I could not relate less to what you just said. I thoroughly enjoy driving. One of the contributin reasons to why I stopped bike commuting was that my truck just sat unused in the carage all day and I missed driving. To me this sound more like that you’re perhaps not very experienced driver and you find it stressful due to how much concentration it requires. This is not the case for me. Just like when riding my mountain bike I don’t really think about how to operate the bike. I don’t even think of me being on the bike but rather the bike just being an extension of me. I get the same feeling when driving a car. Driving a boat on the other hand I do find stressful and I’m quite sure the reason is that I only do it a handful of times a year so I’m not 100% confident in my skills.

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          10 months ago

          Traffic and bad drivers are part of driving like flat tires, noisy brakes and broken chains are part of cycling. That’s not what I enjoy about it but it’s part of the deal that I’m willing to accept.

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            10 months ago

            I don’t pop 3 tires and break a chain everytime I bike and yet everytime I drive to work I have to sit in traffic and deal with jackasses… I’m curious about how you feel they’re similar.

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              10 months ago

              Have you considered the possibility that not everyone lives in a densely populated urban centre like Toronto? My city has population of 120k people. Traffic is virtually unheard of here.

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                10 months ago

                That makes a lot of sense. I was going initially reply with “do you live in a small city” but didn’t want to make it personal or anything.

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        10 months ago

        To me this sound more like that you’re perhaps not very experienced driver

        Nah … driven (and ridden motorbikes) plenty.

        It can be plenty of fun on the open road or when doing it with friends and cruising around. But the moment there’s traffic and the density of an actual city … nah, there’s something off about it for me. I only tend to notice it once I stop driving around for a while and then get back in a car. I don’t mind driving, but there’s something there for me.

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        10 months ago

        I like driving when I am not in a rush and not dealing with traffic…so basically never while commuting. I don’t mind driving to a friend’s place, or a long road trip, but bike commuting is superior for me. I don’t need to make weird sweeping assumptions since you said you live in a small city, but commuting traffic is a nightmare on many coastal cities and major metros, so it is probably not a lack of experience so much as you’re commuting in an area unlike most major metros.

        I actually work from home now, but I bike commuted for over a decade, including for a couple years a one way ride of 22 miles. No matter how tired I was in the morning or how I didn’t feel like getting on the bike, I’d always feel better once I started going, vs a car which studies have shown saps your energy. Also, there is something magical about biking over a highway and seeing standstill traffic that you’d be in as you toodle along without having to stop.

        Plus the calculus I always did was that by turning an irregular 45-75 minute commute into a guaranteed 93 minute commute meant I was spending at most an extra hour and a half to get 3 hours worth of a workout. That frees up so much time for leisure and means you don’t have to workout basically at all.

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          10 months ago

          If bike was faster I’d probably favour it over a car. That however was not the case for me. My commute is 15 minutes by car and 30 by bike.

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          10 months ago

          vs a car which studies have shown saps your energy.

          this. it’s a mentally taxing to constantly pay attention to make sure I’m not gonna crash.