This chart was especially helpful for me - for sorting my traits into categories, because I don’t fit well into any single one. It explains how I was able to fly under the radar for over 30 years: by compensating each with the other two, at the cost of permanent stress and anxiety.

The extremely short version of my story is: Too good grades to be considered ADHD. Too much executive dysfunction to fulfill the expectations placed upon me for scoring high on intelligence tests. Too impulsive and thrillseeking to be considered Autistic.

  • Agamemnon@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    I’ll not read too much into the computer analogy. It will become problematic, when people spin that further. But I get what you mean.

    If you don’t mind me asking: What was the ultimate cause to make you look into Neurodiversity this late in life?

    • narnach@feddit.nlEnglish
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      11 months ago

      My wife was diagnosed with ADHD last year, so I’ve read up on the topic and recognized a bunch of things in myself, but also found things that did not resonate as much. Then I encountered the concept of auDHD and that resonated more.

      Parallel to this I’ve been stuck in a low energy state for too long, so I’m looking to address that. The question is how. Digging deeper into neurodivergence is how I’m doing research on likely causes before picking a specialist to help me diagnose/rule things out. I’ve seen too many folks go down wrong rabbit holes based on not getting the right help.

      • Agamemnon@lemmy.world
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        11 months ago

        Sounds similar to my approach when I began researching about autism. But back then I was already in therapy. And all they really did was nod and agree with my analysis. 😅

        Good luck in finding a competent specialist. Because I know a few people that didn’t go down the wrong rabbit hole by themselves - they were thrown in by “experts”.

        • narnach@feddit.nlEnglish
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          11 months ago

          Thanks!

          Yeah, my wife was initially diagnosed with depression instead of ADHD so I’ve seen that up close. Over a year of antidepressants that in the end just gave her non-stop panic attacks. Proper diagnosis and medication really helped her, as well as a group therapy thing.

          I’ve got my eye on a clinical psychology center that focuses on giftedness, and has experts in various fields, like ADHD and ASD on staff. I figure that’s a solid start compared to random psychologists.