I’m gay. I’m a fat enby and I’m attracted to fat enbies because I’m gay. My username is a joke about the fact that I’m gay.
A lot of people think only a chaser or a fetishist could ever be attracted to a fat person, but that’s a fatphobic trope and it’s time to move past it.
Not all attraction to enbies or fat people is objectifying, but some of it definitely is, and your reddit “pm me your tits”-style username comes across that way. And no one scrolling lemmy is going to hear your explanation of who you are and what you mean, they’re just going to see the comment and username right in front of them.
But I don’t think my fellow fat enbies are going to be offended, because I’m a fat enby who’s actually active in the community. And I don’t think you are. I don’t care what straight people think of us.
You’re trying to dismiss the criticism by ingroup-outgrouping me. I’m not straight, I’m fucking pan, and numerically speaking I doubt most of the thousands of queer people on here know who you are or the intent of your username.
I’ve said my piece here and in our 1:1 conversation, and the more we talk the more you’ll probably dig your heels in. You got feedback from one person and a few upvoters. Take it or leave it.
I’m gay. I’m a fat enby and I’m attracted to fat enbies because I’m gay. My username is a joke about the fact that I’m gay.
A lot of people think only a chaser or a fetishist could ever be attracted to a fat person, but that’s a fatphobic trope and it’s time to move past it.
Not all attraction to enbies or fat people is objectifying, but some of it definitely is, and your reddit “pm me your tits”-style username comes across that way. And no one scrolling lemmy is going to hear your explanation of who you are and what you mean, they’re just going to see the comment and username right in front of them.
But I don’t think my fellow fat enbies are going to be offended, because I’m a fat enby who’s actually active in the community. And I don’t think you are. I don’t care what straight people think of us.
You’re trying to dismiss the criticism by ingroup-outgrouping me. I’m not straight, I’m fucking pan, and numerically speaking I doubt most of the thousands of queer people on here know who you are or the intent of your username.
I’ve said my piece here and in our 1:1 conversation, and the more we talk the more you’ll probably dig your heels in. You got feedback from one person and a few upvoters. Take it or leave it.
Lol that .ml user is just being a shitass