It looks like the lack of persistent storage for the federated activity queue is leading to instances running out of memory in a matter of hours. See my comment for more details.
Furthermore, this leads to data loss, since there is no other consistency mechanism. I think it might be a high priority issue, taking into account the current momentum behind growth of Lemmy…
It is a NoSQL database but the SQL syntax is ANSI SQL compliant. If you moved the queues to Couchbase and let it handle the replication and consistency, you wouldn’t have to code for it.
Sorry. I didn’t realize XDCR was not available in the community edition.