Two weeks ago, I had a date with a girl I met through a dating app. She was really nice, we had a great conversation and she told in person at the bar she would love to see me again.

Well fast forward a week, I keep texting her to set something up, but she’s not responding. I think she’s ghosted me. I mean, that’s fine, but if you don’t want to date me anymore, then just let me know. I will respect your decision.

Dating is so frustrating sometimes… It’s really fucking hard and I sometimes feel lonely because of my lack of success. I have a good job and I’m a nice guy… but eh… I digress.

  • Smathy@kbin.social
    3812·
    1 year ago

    I have definitely told guys at the end of a date that I “want to see them again” while having no intention of seeing them again. It’s a safety thing. IME guys can Jekyll and Hyde pretty hard when being rejected.

    I know it can hurt feelings, but when it comes down to it, my safety > your feelings

    • ComatoseSquirrel@lemmy.ml
      185·
      1 year ago

      I would never recommend putting yourself at risk, but ghosting the person after lying that you’d like to see them again is just a dick move.

    • Fabrik872@apollo.town
      73·
      1 year ago

      I (man) had similar experience as op and i tougth that people on dating apps are really rude for some reason that it is a apps community thing or something this scenario never occure to me as a option. Is really meeting some foreigner as a girl so scary and/or dangerous?

      • ParsnipWitch@feddit.de
        2·
        1 year ago

        Yes it is scary and dangerous. Additionally, some completely flip or “just” start insulting you when you say you don’t want to see them again. I am happier single than trying to go on dates and I bet that’s one of the reasons only 20 % or so of the users on dating apps are women.

    • WhiteHawk@lemmy.world
      45·
      1 year ago

      What a weak excuse for your shitty behaviour. You can just not tell them in person, but afterwards online.

    • borkcorkedforks@kbin.social
      35·
      1 year ago

      I’d get saying it if they ask but might not need to be said if they don’t ask for a second date on the spot.

      • Smathy@kbin.social
        11·
        1 year ago

        After being threatened, stalked, followed and sexually assaulted by men I’ve rejected in person, I’m totally okay with being mean if it lets me avoid all that.