Guys, you gotta cut these relatable memes. I’m starting to think I have autism.
I love being diagnosed by memes, the future is awesome!
That’s me, but I’m not autistic. I’m just an asshole.
I’m sad to admit it but those are not mutaly exclusive.
“How are you?” as part of a greeting is a phatic expression in the English language. In the context described, the first person doesn’t actually care how you are either.
Willy Wonka would disapprove.
You can always defend the meaningfulness of this expression by answering honestly and at length. Which is what I usually do. Either people are genuinely interested in my well being or they learn not to talk to me. Win - Win.
This is why I don’t do small talk. I either don’t respond in the socially appropriate manner or I’m quietly panicking trying to formulate the socially correct response. Let’s just not.
deleted by creator
But why adapt to it in such a way? Isn’t it fucking rude to force someone to lie about their emotional state while remaining ignorant about how they are truely doing? I started to try and find short tacky answers also for the less favourable states, at leaast with people i meet regularly: “… somewhat difficult day”, “Oh, I’m exhausted” … “but I see/hope that you are doing well? / but you look tired, too?” – That might be a surprisingly easy attempt to a little non-smalltalk conversation, if they have the time.
It’s not like they care either. It’s just what you say
I’m fine by the way
I have other psychological impairments, I suffer for GAD and depression but I never understood the need for small talk. Sometimes people I haven’t seen or been in contact with for years stops me in the street to ask me what’s up and I just can’t wait to resume my walk.
Holy shit i do this.
I care! But I really have no intent of finding out how through small talk, fuck that. Exist by me for a bit and let’s do stuff. Build some light connection and complain/vent a bit when we’re comfortable
Removed by mod
