No big self help lemmy so I had to ask it somewhere else. Alright, I’m an university student but:

  • I don’t like too much noise (no parties or bars).
  • I only go to university twice per week and it’s far from home.
  • I don’t like dating apps.
  • Social media imo stresses me out instead of helping me.
  • Can’t steal friends of friends: New city, I know no one here.
  • I suck abismally at sports. Also I don’t have a sporty profile.
  • Board/cardgame shops usually catter to people aged 30 and over as they can actually buy the games.

I’m just, like, out of ideas where to meet people aged 16-26. My best shot so far was in public transport but I’m usually too tired to bother. Been thinking of joining a DnD table or something just to meet people already rofl.

  • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
    7·
    10 months ago

    Spend more time at university, make a social network, and do what your friends are doing. Universities have whole departments around student life. Creating activities for students. Leverage that.

    Make friends with the 30+s at your board game shops. Having a social network is healthy, your not marrying them

    Your in NYC, there is a literal uncountable number of things to do there. Don’t try to make perfect friends. Make any friends. Don’t worry about age, focus on shared interest.

    • Abel@lemmy.nerdcore.socialOP
      4·
      10 months ago

      I’m not in NYC, kek.

      Anyway, the hard part is that I’m not in the USA and universities work very differently, but the practice of students gathering around always happen. Someone suggested joining things thought out for other fields and I think it’s the best idea so far since I don’t really mingle with people who study my subject. But giving the board game shops a fair chance is not a bad idea either. TY!

    • Eq0@literature.cafe
      1·
      10 months ago

      Absolutely ! For work, I have to keep moving every couple of years, so I’ve learned a few tricks to create a network. The two main rules are: online doesn’t count and something is better than nothing. The first is clear, while the second one is based on the “friends paradox”: on average, your friends have more friends than you have. That means that meeting someone random can help you meet more people, until you gather your own group.