Lol, yes, as a gay man with 2 kids, I’m unable to appreciate the struggles men might have in raising children.
You seem to think we all can make choices without consequences. If women choose not to raise children and instead return to work rather than their husband, they are judged for it. If men do so,.it is seen as normal and expected.
Couple make choices but part of our choices are framed by how society is set up to allow those choices. Would more women choose to take more time with their children if they knew their career and finances would be unaffected? Would men too?
Would more children have the love and care they need if we allowed people to make the choice based on how they think the kids are best raised, rather than from financial pressure?
The crux of the matter is, how society is set up affects these choices, materially and in peer pressure to conform. As it is currently, that means women take more of the childcare burden and face financial consequences for it. Outside of childcarez they face discrimination on the basis that they MAY have children in the future. Assertive women are seen as bitchy. Assertive men are seen as go-getters. Professional women are less likely to find and marry a partner, even if they wish to, as men find it emasculating… professional men find it easier to find a partner as they are seen as accomplished. Then we have the issue of how much each role is paid and roles offering flexibility to allow child care being paid less.
Basically, the cards are stacked against them but they can choose to fight at every step. Due to the fight at every step, few advance to the upper echelons and the average woman is paid less at all levels. Sometimes for the same work, sometimes as they are overlooked for promotion to higher paying roles. Either sucks.
Lol, yes, as a gay man with 2 kids, I’m unable to appreciate the struggles men might have in raising children.
You seem to think we all can make choices without consequences. If women choose not to raise children and instead return to work rather than their husband, they are judged for it. If men do so,.it is seen as normal and expected.
Couple make choices but part of our choices are framed by how society is set up to allow those choices. Would more women choose to take more time with their children if they knew their career and finances would be unaffected? Would men too?
Would more children have the love and care they need if we allowed people to make the choice based on how they think the kids are best raised, rather than from financial pressure?
The crux of the matter is, how society is set up affects these choices, materially and in peer pressure to conform. As it is currently, that means women take more of the childcare burden and face financial consequences for it. Outside of childcarez they face discrimination on the basis that they MAY have children in the future. Assertive women are seen as bitchy. Assertive men are seen as go-getters. Professional women are less likely to find and marry a partner, even if they wish to, as men find it emasculating… professional men find it easier to find a partner as they are seen as accomplished. Then we have the issue of how much each role is paid and roles offering flexibility to allow child care being paid less.
Basically, the cards are stacked against them but they can choose to fight at every step. Due to the fight at every step, few advance to the upper echelons and the average woman is paid less at all levels. Sometimes for the same work, sometimes as they are overlooked for promotion to higher paying roles. Either sucks.