Is that just bicurious? (I’m asking in general, not as myself because I’m bi for sure.)

I know people probably ask this a lot but I genuinely want to know now.

  • otp@sh.itjust.works
    10·
    2 days ago

    If you aren’t attracted to them but you want to date them, what would you end up doing that you wouldn’t do with a friend?

    • Be in an exclusive relationship that doesn’t involve sexual activity?
    • Get jealous if they hang out with or say they love anyone else?
    • Engage in sexual activity but not enjoy it?
    • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      5·
      2 days ago

      I’m not the OP, but their question was pretty much describing me.

      For me, it’s about intimacy. I value intimacy. Hugging, kissing, touching, holding hands, sharing moments, laying on the couch together watching TV etc. Those are things that I don’t do with my friends, and aren’t things that I’m looking for from my friends.

      Asexual folk have developed language that talks about the way they navigate similar situations. Sex averse, sex neutral and sex positive. So even though I’m not ace, the terms apply in a similar way to my relationships. Using these terms, I would describe myself as sex neutral. Which is to say that I don’t seek it out, and I don’t miss it. Yet, it’s also a very strong form of intimacy, which I value a great deal, and as an expression of intimacy, it’s very much something I’m happy to share with my partner.

    • Aurora@lemmy.mlOP
      2·
      2 days ago

      Said person just finds women hot but wouldn’t get jealous nor have sex