• qyron@sopuli.xyz
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    be 20 y/o permavirgin

    I was 22 when I had my first time. Never considered myself a permavirgin.

    Happy the poster found happiness for the following reasons:

    a) he got laid

    b) he’s no longer a virgin

    c) he found happiness

    d) he found someone to love and that loves him back

    e) there are two more people happy in the world

    but, holy turtle on a skateboard, am I really happy for having one less doofus complaining of being alone.

    Bring on the hate! I love you all!

    • lurch (he/him)@sh.itjust.works
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      I was way younger and it was super cringe. It was also fun and hot, but looking back I shouldn’t have tried to get laid so early and desperately. We were so stupid back then.

      For example, one girl actually persuaded me into having unprotected sex, which I didn’t want, but I wanted to get laid so desperatly that I agreed. She was using a calendar to track her period and fertile days and that was risky AF and didn’t account for STDs as well. This is something you can maybe do as a long time couple, but not with a person you just met three days ago.

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        Definetely not.

        I was a blood doner when I met my partner. I was constantly asked/reminded that having casual sex partners would ban me for six months from donating; I have a fairly uncommon blood type for my country, so I was very keen on not being put on “quarantine”.

        When we said it was the right moment for us to be together, I went to make a donation before and warned I would not be donating for the nexy six months for obvious reasons.

        I was thanked for the warning and about two weeks later received a full bloodwork panel, including STDs, attesting I was clean and as safe as possible.

        When I did return for my next donation, when asked if had been with new sex partners for the last six months, when I replied I was still doing the same, since my last visit, everyone laughed.

        Never pressure anyone into unprotected sex. Ever.

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      20 hours ago

      I was 29 years old when I met my first girlfriend and had my first sex and I regret nothing. I didn’t really realize it at the time, but I wasn’t at all ready at 20 years old.

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          So given your other comment, a lack of experience is normal here. Speaking as someone who has been on many sides of the ability to get laid spectrum from “nobody will ever fuck me” to regular group sex, to “both of my partners have been in long funks of not wanting sex and I’ve grown too picky for casual” the think you need to understand is that it’s not going to just happen, but trying too hard will ensure it doesn’t.

          Go out, meet new people, dress nice for it, and be your most enjoyable to be around self, and start learning to flirt (it’s a skill and everyone starts terrible at it).

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      I was 22 when I had my first time. Never considered myself a permavirgin.

      Same. People are so damn dramatic.