I was trying to explain federated websites to a friend and she asked if there is a federated dating app. She recently went through a break up and the apps are dreadful as I’m sure many of you know.

It’d be hard to launch a dating system on the fediverse because it the type of service that relies heavily on network effects. People want to be on the dating app with the most people. However, I think there is an opportunity because the mainstream apps are so notoriously awful, monetized, and enshitified.

It could be a community within an existing network or it could be its own website. I don’t know, I’m just putting the idea out there.

  • rglullis@communick.newsEnglish
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    6 hours ago

    I’d ask why you swiped on them in the first place.

    For women:

    • because getting a match (even if from a “maybe”) is always a confidence boost.
    • because the abundance of men allows them to be extra picky. If they are matching with 8, 9 and 10s, and you are a solid 8. Your luck with them will depend on how many messages they got that night from 9s and 10s.

    For men:

    • Shotgun, spray-and-pray approach.

    Who wants to talk to someone who, based on all available evidence in this scenario, can’t hold a conversation?

    Lonely and/or horny people.

    • jjjalljs@ttrpg.networkEnglish
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      5 hours ago

      Some of this behavior seems self destructive.

      I knew a woman who would be like “I have too many matches it’s overwhelming”. I’d be like “ok well stop swiping and clear out what you have.” She’d be like “no, swiping is fun.” Well, ok, but you’re not making progress towards your stated goal, and you’re wasting the other people’s time.