Is what i am saying untrue? If gay sex is something you’ll get in trouble for, then your secrecy is assured. It’s only when LGBTQ acceptance became a thing that all those gay republicans got exposed.

Same logic can be applied to sexual attitudes towards women in the 18th, 19th, and early 20th. If having sex out of wedlock destroys that woman’s reputation, then I can have sex with all the women I want and they have to keep it a secret or they’ll be forced into prostitution.