Maybe you haven’t been convinced by a good enough argument. Maybe you just don’t want to admit you are wrong. Or maybe the chaos is the objective, but what are you knowingly on the wrong side of?

In my case: I don’t think any games are obliged to offer an easy mode. If developers want to tailor a specific experience, they don’t have to dilute it with easier or harder modes that aren’t actually interesting and/or anything more than poorly done numbers adjustments. BUT I also know that for the people that need and want them, it helps a LOT. But I can’t really accept making the game worse so that some people get to play it. They wouldn’t actually be playing the same game after all…

  • gjoel@programming.dev
    131·
    10 hours ago

    Pronouns. I get that they matter a lot to some people, and of course it’s super annoying (if not worse) to be referred to in the wrong way, but I find it unreasonable to demand being referred to something outside of the gender binary, simply because that’s the way language works.

    I am aware that English has used “they” for a person of unknown gender for ages, but for one, I don’t think it’s something that you should demand people call you when they actually know your gender, but also I really hate that this is making its way into other languages like my own, that has never had this convention. Inventing entirely new pronouns is just ridiculous, I have a hard enough time to remember your name.

    I am also aware that language evolves, but this is not evolution, it’s forced, and if one group of people can try to force a change they prefer, I’m as much in my right to resist it if I don’t like it.

    People are super passionate about this though and in fifty years I’m sure I’ll be seen as a fossil for not getting with the times now - in fact I’m sure certain people see me like this now.

    • Hugin@lemmy.world
      5·
      8 hours ago

      Yeah I support trans rights. If you are consistent I’ll use your preferred pronouns. I don’t care what bathroom people use. Health care is between you and your doctor. I only care about what genitals you have if we are going to be doing things with each others genitals.

      That said so many trans people are complete assholes about it. I’m on your side but fuck so many of you are annoying jerks.

      I remember when gays started coming out of the closet and they handled it better. Polite but firm about being treated fairly. The trans community is making more foes then friends the way they are acting.

      • DavidDoesLemmy
        4·
        4 hours ago

        This might be specific to your region? Most trans people I know are grateful if you even make an effort. Even if you get it wrong sometimes.

        • Hugin@lemmy.world
          1·
          4 hours ago

          Could be. Grateful and understanding does describe my two trans friends. However they we friends before they transitioned. So the relationship was established and they knew I cared about them.

          I knew one for ten years before they transitioned. So yeah I try not to dead name them but it takes time to adjust. For me it took about 2 years before I didn’t think of their old name and have to adjust it before speaking.

          I was talking about them with a mutual friend at a party. Someone I don’t know yells at me from across the room “we don’t use that name here.” I’m better friends with them then you and you just made the entire party aware of their status.

          Maybe it’s just the people who make it a big deal publicly and like to challenge people. They tend to be the most noticeable in the community.

      • CarrotsHaveEars@lemmy.ml
        1·
        8 hours ago

        I know, right? The pronoun for third-person female did not exist historically. When western culture hit China 100 years ago, they swap out the part where it means ‘human’ to make a new word.

        Now when someone wants to refer to one in a gender-neutral way, they naturally write out the phonetic ‘ta’, as if the gender-neutral word is for male only.🤦

        Same goes for second-person pronoun in Taiwan.

        Stop these bullshits! The Chinese language does not need to address the gender! Figure that out in context! If you are writing and don’t want to confuse your reader, just use the name!

    • greedytacothief@lemmy.world
      1·
      8 hours ago

      I know a few trans or nonbinary folks. They either go by he, she, or they. I have yet to meet someone who doesn’t. Then again I live in a weird progressive rural community.

      But if someone asks me to refer to them a particular way, sure what not? It means more to them than it means to me.