I recently made a new account on lemmy.blahaj.zone, because Iā€™ve been harassed and doxxed on my old account and I wanted a fresh start with a more lighthearted online identity that I could be more open about my gender identity on. Iā€™d heard blahaj zone was good for trans people, so I made my account there. And yeah, [email protected] removed my post discussing neuronormativism from a queer perspective, but I hoped maybe ā€œthe trans instanceā€ would be friendlier to trans people.

A couple days after making my account, I saw someone on Blahaj engaging in the tired old cliche of ā€œI hate politics, thereā€™s no politics on my social media and I want to keep it that way!ā€ Well weā€™ve all heard the joke that the two races are white and political, the two genders are male and political, and the two sexualities are straight and political. Hatred of politics is a transphobic, sexist, and racist trope. And having sufferred harassment and abuse from people inside the queer community who ā€œhated politicsā€ and saw trans or nonbinary or xenogender identities as political, I knew this kind of speech was going to make bigots feel comfortable saying they also hate politics, and they think us trans people are it.

So, I responded to the transphobia. I started out by attempting to educate them on what politics actually means. But I was interrupted by the Blahaj admin Ada, who told me that politics is ā€œanything I disagree withā€, and that indeed politics isnā€™t welcome on Blahaj. This language was deeply triggering of my past issues dealing with abuse, and I knew from past experience this sort of thing is said by people who are getting ready to say some enbyphobic or racist hate speech. It is especially common for white queer people to talk this way to BIPOC queer people. I tried to reason with Ada, explained the history of the cliche, the trauma itā€™s caused many trans people, and the consequences this kind of speech will have on the community here, making us all less safe.

Ada wasnā€™t having it. She minimised my concerns by reducing them to my personal trauma while ignoring my wider concerns for othersā€™ safety, and weaponised my PTSD to paint my opinions as invalid because I am mentally ill. She said she owns Blahaj, and she gets to do whatever she wants with it, and nobody is allowed to express a differing opinion, even one that protects trans people, because thatā€™s politics. At the time I thought her concern was me speaking directly to transphobes and making them feel uncomfortable by calling out their actions, so I said Iā€™d just report it instead, and she banned my account.

This behaviour protects transphobes, WILL lead to trans and BIPOC people being harassed on this instance, attacks and gaslights victims of trauma (my concerns canā€™t be valid because I have a mental illness), and forces out any trans person with a commitment to safety for the community.

The thread where all this happened: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2143969

    • Timwi@kbin.social
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      I donā€™t believe thatā€™s what they were saying. They were saying that transphobes often use the phrase to shut down conversation about their transphobic comments. That doesnā€™t mean anyone who uses the phrase is a transphobe using it for that purpose.

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          Thanks for the pointer, I agree with you now. What I get for giving people a shred of the benefit of the doubtā€¦

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      Trans people are political, whether we want to be or not. When we start adopting this ā€œhating politicsā€ language, we implicitly accept the mechanisms that oppress us and make transphobia easier for other people. Hating politics is transphobic.

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        Claiming things that are not transphobic (like this) are transphobic is harmful to trans people. This explains why you were banned. Blahaj doesnā€™t allow transphobia or people who harm the trans community like you are doing.

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          Claiming things that are transphobic (like this) are not tranphobic is harmful to trans people. This tells us that Blahaj is transphobic. It doesnā€™t allow trans rights or people who protect the trans community like I am doing.

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            1 year ago

            The troll once again showing their colors. Thanks for the entertainment and outing yourself as a hate filled bigot.

            • First Majestic Comet@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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              Before anyone tries to argue that they canā€™t be a bigot because theyā€™re NonBinary, just keep in mind that transmedicalists are openly and directly transphobic despite being transgender themselves. Just because this person is NonBinary that doesnā€™t make them not a hate-filled bigot, they still indeed are one, and in a way itā€™s actually worse because theyā€™ll just say people are being transphobic or enbyphobic towards them when people try to call them out, which ends up being harmful because theyā€™re calling things that arenā€™t transphobic transphobic. That reflects negatively on trans people and takes away from the ability to call out actual transphobia.