• atro_city@fedia.io
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    2 months ago

    Why not? That sounds like a vegan rule: you’re not vegan unless you tell people you’re vegan.

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            2 months ago

            I think atro’s point is that non-ethical polyamory can exist. It shouldn’t be done, but can, and is still a type of polyamory.

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                2 months ago

                I guess the way I’m thinking about it is that just because the third party doesn’t know it’s poly, doesn’t mean it isn’t poly to the people in the primary couple. It’s unethical and dishonest, but it is a situation where some of the people involved are being non-monogamous.