Currently users you block can still see your posts, reply to those posts, and trigger notifications when they do reply.

You can read the beginning of messages people you have blocked in your notifications tab, but have to unblock users to see the rest of what everyone else reading the replies to your post can see.

A “blocking” feature that is only inconvenient to the blocker is worse than no blocking feature at all, equivalent to trying to escape a fistfight by turning invisible but actually just closing your eyes.

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    I disagree in turn with you.

    If someone is harassing me and not engaging in good faith, I should be able to disengage from them and hide myself from their view.

    If I was talking to someone in a park and a third person joined the conversation that’s fine. If that person starts being an annoying asshole, I should be able to walk away from the harassment while still maintaining my conversation. Accepting harassment is not a requirement to talk to people, and I should not have to accept harassment from whomever wants to fuck with me for the privilege of talking to people who aren’t harassing me.

    I also don’t consider a site where people shitpost memes to be needing the same “public forum” protections of say a town hall meeting or a politician’s official communications.

    “Open air free-for-alls” as I am reading you seem to prefer tend also to drive out people with marginalized identities as they leave them open to harassment people from dominate groups members do not get subjected to for just existing.

    Further, there is no moral or technical reason a person should not be able to send out a message to “Everyone in the world except for Tom when he is logged in—because fuck that guy.”

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      If that person starts being an annoying asshole, I should be able to walk away from the harassment while still maintaining my conversation

      Except for the notification part, that is how blocking works currently.

      If someone is harassing you, just block that person, you won’t see any content created by that person, while you can maintain communication with the rest

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        They shouldn’t be able to eavesdrop on my conversation, nor take part in it.

        I should be able to speak to Everybody But Tom if I so wish, and Tom should not be able to butt into the conversation.

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          They’re not eavesdropping, you’re shouting in a public space. You don’t get to control other people. If you want that type of control then you should be on your own personal page on social media. Because that is not how public forums have ever worked, nor is it how they’re supposed to work.

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            This isn’t a public square. This is a private website. This is not how we decide where our taxes go, nor is it backed by any government.

            If you were in public and a person started following you around as you had a conversation (even if that conversation was with everyone in the world except the bad actor) you could walk away and take the conversation with you.
            If the harasser kept following you, you could firmly ask them to leave you alone, then start creeping your hand toward whatever weapon you keep on your person.

            According to you, a person should not be able to post their Eid spread without every reply in the thread getting @ed Islamophobic venom?
            A person cannot ask for latke recipes without everyone who has one being @ed antisemitism?
            A woman cannot post a thread about a great picnic she just had with her wife without everyone replying “Nice cheese spread!” being bombarded with @s calling the women in the OP men?

            Do you see how your—in my view, flawed—position sures up dominate power structures and discourages identities which are marginalized (and tend to be the victims of harassment) from speaking?

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              This isn’t a public square. This is a private website. This is not how we decide where our taxes go, nor is it backed by any government.

              It’s a private website, but it is a public space. Restaurants are privately owned, but legally are considered public spaces. It’s the same with social media

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                So if you were having dinner in a restaurant with your special someone [just pretend you have one if you have to] and I simply don’t like you (and not because you were a nazi or a politician trying to strip me of healthcare—both categories of people should be ran out of public at every chance—I just didn’t like you) you would have no problem with me sitting down at your table and butting in to your conversation to say you were wrong about the truffle butter?

                If you were having dinner and said how much you liked your steak well-done—in public mind you—you wouldn’t mind if I kept telling everyone around you that you’re a piece of shit who ruins cuts of meat?

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                  Is not a matter if I have a problem or not. You can make a scene in public all you want, the place staff will ask you to leave if you do not behave accordingly to social norms

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                    So you want to rely on the staff to maintain your peace?

                    You wouldn’t want to have me fuck off at the press of a button?

                    Sounds like your way is what I described with extra steps.

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              I think you’re well-meaning but not understanding the topic. This is a public square, regardless of its private ownership. And you can stop hearing any of their harassment by hitting the block button, which is exactly it’s purpose. And if anyone is being abusive there’s a report button so the mods of the forum can ban them.

              I also think we’re the only people still seeing this conversation now, and I think neither of us is gonna convince the other of anything. So I’ll just say i wish good things for you and maybe or paths will cross again some day. =)

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                I think you are misunderstanding what “public square” means, as well I question how familiar you are with the harassment marginalized identities tend to face, nor what improves the lived experiences of said people.

                Website that allow actual blocking have always made for better user experience in my …experience

                I do not wish specific good things for you, past the peace and prosperity I desire for all intelligent life.

                The “Good day.” I am about the deliver does not contradict my above statement against wishing you specific good; it’s part and parcel the P&P mentioned just below there that everybody gets (as well an acknowledgement our conversation is over).

                Good day.

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          So you want to forbid people to speak to other people because you say so? That’s really selfish, to say the least

          If you want to maintain private conversations, use private messages. The rest is public

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            Yes, I want to forbid people to speak to me or take part in my conversations because I say so.

            I, selfishly, do not wish to be harassed or have my conversations derailed by bad actors.

            If people are free to make their own threads and own claims, why do they need “the right” to butt into and derail mine?

            If you want to maintain private conversations, use private messages. The rest is public

            It doesn’t have to be. There is no reason I should not be able to speak to “everyone accept for people I designate” (Tom).

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              Yes, I want to forbid people to speak to me

              Well, block that people. Currently blocking is working as intended (except for the already mentioned notifications that is either a bug or an overlook). You block them and they can speak to you. The End

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                If they can still see what I post, then blocking is not working as optimally as it could.

                (And since their replies—that they should not be able to make—still show up in my notifications, then it isn’t even working the way you say it does.)

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                  If they can still see what I post, then blocking is not working as optimally as it could.

                  Blocking ends the harassement. Is working as optimally as it can. If you are screaming in a public space (because that’s what a forum is, every body can enter and take a look) people around you will hear you, like it or not.

                  If you do not like how forums work, don’t use forums. Is the best advice I can give you

                  still show up in my notifications,

                  Yeah already said that in the previous comment

                  (except for the already mentioned notifications that is either a bug or an overlook).

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                    If you do not like how forums work, don’t use forums. Is the best advice I can give you

                    That is shitty advice. Better advice would be, “Post in the magazine specifically dedicated to suggesting improvements to UE and suggest a better way the site could work.”

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        If they can still reply to your posts/comments then no it’s not how blocking currently works. You can’t “walk away”.