• Etterra@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    Yeah lady, that’s a good thing. Not only for safety, but because normal people don’t like stupid head games or trying to guess “is she playing hard to get?”

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      Plus it seems to me that if somebody plays hard to get to stroke their ego about how desired they are, they are much more likely to end up with a partner that’s an overconfident or pushy asshole and might not be the most fun to share a life with.

      That’s not an absolute rule of course. I’m sure it works for plenty of couples where the chase was fun and flirtatious. But that crap is not for me and thank goodness I’ve been married to a good person for a long-ass time.

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      2 months ago

      So you are telling me girls don’t expect

      stupid head games

      where you live?

      While I’d probably think about changing countries were this true, not sure I can believe that.

      • ℍ𝕂-𝟞𝟝@sopuli.xyz
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        2 months ago

        There are some rare ones that don’t. Once you find one, you are considered to have won the dating game.

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          I’ve met one once, but it seems that was only because she’d given up trying to make me notice those games.

          At some point her patience ran out, and I haven’t yet come up with a way (natural and not forced) to talk to her that would meet the condition she set then (if it’s something romantic, then I should mean it and not wander around, and if it’s art, then it should be clearly art, no nonsense ; and wandering around is my way of life, so).