I, just wanna stop feeling anything. Never had friends but I could live with that, but I just want someone to embrace, someone that feels something for me, even if doesn’t last. Better than 0 for the rest of my life. This situation is slowly killing me.
The only thing that gives me some relief is gaming… (I read the post of like a week ago here that several dudes met their partner thanks to a videogame and I felt even sadder, why that wasn’t me? I’ve been gaming for 30 years now).
Having a single interest isn’t very interesting or healthy. But fine, some people are probably like that. But for you, specifically, it’s not working. It’s not getting you any traction. You refuse to change anything, yet want change to come to you.
Furthermore! You can meet people via video games. There was a meetup I used to go to, pre-pandemic, that was around a single player game. Think “slay the spire”. We’d meet once a month at a bar, decide on the theme for the evening, and play and socialize side by side. Shit like that exists. Anyone can create it. But you have to put work in.
Lastly! You don’t even need interests to go to a lot of social events. Like a neighborhood picnic. I’ve even seen “speed dating” and “singles mixers” (and poly groups) on Meetup. There’s a get together I go to that’s just a once a month hangout in the neighborhood. No agenda, no fixed activity. People just bring snacks, talk, sometimes play Frisbee. Great way to meet people. But you have to leave the house
I keep telling you this and you keep ignoring it.
If you refuse to do anything but sit in your house and play your video games, it’s not surprising at all you’re lonely.
Those events you talk about aren’t a thing here. I really hope you understand
Where is here? Are you in the US? Are you on the moon?
You can always start your own event, if there really isn’t anything at all, which I don’t believe.
I’m not in the US, I’m not even an English speaker
I can’t help you without more information but I am confident that people get together socially in all places since like the dawn of history.
Edit: you’re doing okay at English as a non-native speaker, so you’ve got that going for you at least.
I wish I could show you a shot of the town at night here, there’s nothing besides a couple of bars but I don’t wanna be there. I don’t wanna be surrounded by noise and I’m trying to drink less
Maybe you should move.
Which does require a job (or just savings to burn. Less ideal) and isn’t easy, but it sounds like a lot of the problems you’re facing are aggravated by your location being small and limited. (I think you said elsewhere that you don’t have a job. Side note: most people don’t want to date someone who’s jobless. Sucks we have to work, but that’s the world for folks that aren’t the idle rich)
I’m not convinced you couldn’t find people who want to get together, even there, but if you’re right and there’s no one then you’re going to need to accept that or move.
You might also need a car if there’s no transit, as I said earlier. Unless you move somewhere walkable, which is pretty great, but may be unavailable depending on where in the world you are.
It sucks that your problems are compound problems, but if that’s the reality of it that’s what it is. Being sad about it isn’t going to make anything better.
Break the problem into smaller pieces and make plans for addressing them.
Want to move? Need a job.
Need a job? Need skills or contacts or luck.
Need skills? Online tutorials, classes, scholarships, etc.
Need contacts? LinkedIn, Facebook, people you went to school with, parent’s friends.
Etc etc.
None of it’s likely to be easy, but you’d be moving towards a better existence. Don’t just give up.
This is only getting me more depressed… I’m aware that my life sucks.