I searched this morning for communities related to polyamory and open relationships. Finding nothing, I created something. If you are interested in polyamory, open relationships, ethical non-monogamy, etc, swing on by for a chat, to post something silly, as you will.
edit: [email protected]
Polyamory is WRONG! You people disgust me!
Mixing Latin and Greek words like that! Either call it multiamory or polyphilia!
The nerve of some people!
This is why I don’t watch television.
How do you feel about multiphilia? ;-)
🤬
I never noticed
polyphilia
Love that band. Their latest album is the shit.
swing on by for a chat
I see you.
I hope you’re ready for a deluge of ignorant comments. And some malicious ones.
I’m going quickly enumerate some of the more common responses.
“I knew a poly couple and they broke up!” -> we’ve all known many monogamous relationships that ended, too. Though it is true that going from a conventional, deeply entangled, monogamous relationship to something else is challenging. Read about the missing step if you’re interested. Monogamous people would also benefit.
“It’s bad for the kids!” -> the poly people I know who have kids, the kids are doing great. They have more adults in their lives that are invested in them.
“It’s just cheating!” -> cheating is when you break agreed upon rules. If the rules don’t include “only have sex with one person”, then it’s not cheating to do otherwise.
“It’s just about sex!” -> sometimes! Sometimes monogamous relationships are just about sex. Sometimes they’re not.
“I’m too jealous for that!” -> most people experience jealousy. What’s important is how you deal with it. If you’re the kind of person who has a freak out and breaks into your partner’s phone because he smiled at the waitress, that’s not ok and not something to be proud of. You can and should work on emotional regulation.
“You poly people think you’re better than everyone!” -> some people might. But that’s true for any subcategory of people. Vegans. Linux users. City dwellers. Country dwellers. I will say that living unexamined choices I think is the worse choice. If monogamy is something you really thought about and chose, fine, good for you. But if you’re just doing it because that’s expected and never gave it a thought? Less impressed. The same for eating meat or using windows.
Ok, I think that’s all the highlights.
We’ve already had “it’s just about sex”. And anyone that’s been around has heard all the rest, and more. Let’s see how it rolls, without expectations, fearless. And please, when your predictions come to fruition, come help out. It’s all about education, and conversation. :-)
Interesting topic. Any link to share?
[email protected] /c/[email protected]
Delighted to see another Mbin magazine for once. It is the Fediverse, and lately it’s been feeling like the Lemmyverse. Hope this gets users.
TY! I’m still learning the syntax.
Also, any women to share?
Are women things to be shared? I’m not sure you are quite getting the right idea.
That’s the poly- in polyamory
Guess I hit a nerve lol
No, you don’t understand how it works and made a dumb comment
Dang I’m getting insulted by the dudes who let other guys bang their girlfriends
This is absolutely disgusting behavior from someone on Lemmy. How DARE you. They might have boyfriends too.
“let”
as if we’re incapable of having sex without a man’s permission.
As opposed to traditional monogamous relationships, that’s the correct word. Otherwise it’s not “mono”-gamy. If you are not “letting” the other person in an exclusive relationship sleep with another person, then that’s considered cheating. Why am I explaining extremely common and basic stuff like I’m speaking to non binary aliens lol, please go outside.
Not the brightest bulb are ya? Continuing to double down on your stupid comments
I have a difficult time differentiating between active trolling and a lack of knowledge/ understanding. u/Moon appears to be leaning trollward. However calling someone stupid, or dumb is ableist or elitist. People have differing levels of cognitive capacity and education. And learning occurs over time, but not by the same linear path for each of us. Ultimately what I’m trying to say is education is better than ad hominem attacks. Also, don’t feed the trolls.
[email protected] is the link you want to put. Otherwise it just links to !polyamory on the user’s home instance.
I’m confused, both those resolve to the same link, on my screen.
Because your home instance is kbin.run where the community is! Try these. !programming and [email protected]
I see what you mean. And I corrected the link above to what I think is correct. Can you, would you please check me on that? I’m just learning how this all works. Seems there’s some federation issues for some users.
No, you need to literally put [email protected] instead of just !polyamory. It’s like dialing someone’s phone number who lives in a different country and not including the country code when you don’t include an instance.
Hmm, do you realize when I copy each of those “!polyamory” (which appear as blue links) above, in your message, and then paste them next to each other in the text editor, that both of them are the same. LIke this: https://kbin.run/m/Polyamory
which further confuses me as to what you are suggesting, as I think I’ve done what you suggested.
!polyamory@kbin.runnot!polyamory. It’s like trying to email “John”. John at what? You’re onkbin.runso it goes to!polyamory@kbin.runlike you expect. When I click on!polyamoryit tries to go to!polyamory@programming.devbecause my instance isprogramming.dev.Ok, thank you, it appears the fog of ignorance has been dissipated by your brilliance. I apologize for being so dense. This should work a whole lot better.
Open relationships? Isn’t that just a group chat 💀
