I have been propositioned by swingers quite a bit. It’s to the point that if a couple is nice to me, I start getting suspicious. This has happened with acquaintances, long-time friends, people I’ve met at a party, co-workers, and even strangers at the beach. Three times that I can remember off the top of my head, they propositioned me and my girlfriend at the time (separate girls many years apart). Is this a normal thing? What about me could make me attractive to swinger couples?

I’m a cis-gendered straight male. As far as physical attractiveness, I would say I’m slightly above average based on what women have told me and how they treat me.

  • Captain Poofter@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    5 months ago

    It’s 2024, people are more open minded to things that aren’t cis monogamous relationships, and you may just be seeing the results of that as a “slightly” above average attractive man.

    P.s. you might be in the sweet spot of attractive. Better looking than most, but still approachable. It takes balls to ask a George Clooney type for a 4 way.

    • I'm back on my BS 🤪@lemmy.autism.placeOPEnglish
      9·
      5 months ago

      It’s 2024, people are more open minded to things that aren’t cis monogamous relationships,

      This has been going on since like 2006.

      you might be in the sweet spot of attractive. Better looking than most, but still approachable.

      I think this might be it. I’ve had friends that meet several women every time they go out, so I know they’re seen as attractive. I have never received the type of attention they have, but I have had ex partners, friends, and acquaintances give me respectful compliments.

      • Vanth@reddthat.comEnglish
        8·
        5 months ago

        This sent me down a Wikipedia rabbit hole. It alleges swinging took off in the US during World War II because the mortality rate of Air Force Pilots was so high.

        a close bond arose between pilot families that implied that pilot husbands would care for all the wives as their own – emotionally and sexually – if the husbands were lost.

        And then evolved from there, spread through the military and out to the civilian public.

        Haha, I used to live in Colorado near the Air Force academy and it makes me giggle to think the most white christian of the military branches is the one that brought us swinging. Am I surprised by this? No

        • Forester@yiffit.net
          3·
          5 months ago

          I mean that’s actually right on point for biblically founded ideologies. Historically in the judeo-christian faith. It is expected that you were to take over the marriage of your brother if your brother died.