• Ibaudia@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    To be fair, when you’re touch-starved and attracted to women sometimes it really feels like they’re the most important thing in life lol.

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      5 months ago

      Straight men can, and should, touch each other more often (CONSENSUALLY. I can’t stress that enough). Hugging, holding hands, playing with one another’s hair, giving a gentle backrub etc. between straight men should absolutely be more normalised. We’ve been conditioned that any physical affection between men is a sign of sexual attraction, when history (and many extant cultures) show us that men can physically love one another without any sexual attraction whatsoever. The only reason we’re touch starved is we’re too afraid to be vulnerable with other men.

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        5 months ago

        Not all touch needs are met platonically. Might as well advise touch-starved single men to hug their mothers more.

        I hug my wife all the the time. Just makes it hurt all the worse that she doesn’t hug back, let alone our other issues. Hug my kids too. Its not their job, or anyone’s, to satisfy every needy bastard out there, and yet: there’s supposedly mutual attraction for that.