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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/LucyAriaRose on 2024-06-27 05:34:30+00:00.
I am NOT the Original Poster. That is u/karinatermina. She posted in r/AmItheAsshole
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Trigger Warning: body shaming
Mood Spoiler: frustrating and confusing for OOP
Original Post: June 19, 2024
My sister (24f) is really upset with me (16f).
Recently I bought a few new pairs of jeans. My normal size use to be about a 30 but over the course of a few months I lost a lot of weight and my size dropped to about a 25 (or 24 depending on the brand). My sister had always been the skinnier of the two of us so whenever she gained some weight she would borrow my jeans because she was “too fat” to fit into her normal pair (a 26), and my clothes were there only things that would fit her without her going out to buy new clothes.
Yesterday I went to the mall with my friends and bought some new clothes because the majority of my wardrobe didn’t fit me anymore. I bought a few tops, shoes, and three pairs of jeans. When I got home I put the clothes to wash and went to my room. After about an hour my sister walked into my room, visually upset, holding my jeans. I noticed she was carrying them and apologized to her because I assumed that they were done for a while so I was hogging the washing machine and perhaps she wanted to put her load of clothes to wash.
When I went to grab them from her she stepped away not letting me take them. I asked her what’s wrong and she asked who’s jeans were these for. I told her they were for me and took them from her arms so that I can put them to dry. She replied by saying they’re way too small. I answered by saying that they fit me very well and I already tried them on at the store to make sure. She scoffed and said “well they won’t fit me”. I blinked and replied with “sorry I guess you’ll have to wear yours”.
She seemed even more upset and told me about how she gained weight and can only fit into my size. I listened and shook my head replying that i’m not her size anymore. She left in a huff and i just watched. I’m a bit confused and i’m wondering if I had said something wrong? A few hours later she texted me that I shouldn’t get use to my body right now because it was just puberty helping me and that I will gain all the weight back quickly. I don’t know how to reply and I’m honestly a little concerned that maybe I was too insensitive about the situation. So AITA?
OOP is voted NTA
Update 1 (Same Post, Same Day):
Thank you guys so much for your comments and suggestions. I’m reading everyone’s responses and believe I didn’t say anything wrong. I do feel bad because maybe my words were just triggering for her. I haven’t thrown out any of my old clothes because I was planning to sort through them to see what I can keep and what I can donate. I’ll take some clothes out for her and see if she wants them. I’ll update if anything.
The last message she sent me was a little questionable saying “you’re going to get pregnant”. Completely lost on that comment but I’m assuming maybe that was for someone else? I’ll give her the clothes tomorrow because I know she has some stuff to do the rest of the week and needs something to wear. I really love my sister and hope she forgives me for anything I did to make her feel bad.
Update 2 (Same Post): June 20, 2024 (Next Day)
Update 2: Offering my old jeans to my sister was a bad idea. I brought a basket of my old clothes to her room and asked if she wanted to pick some stuff out. She seemed offended by the idea and said I was being rude and that she didn’t need hand downs.
I took back the basket and she kicked me out her room. I talked to my dad about what happened (our mom isn’t in the picture) and he said to just leave her alone, so i’ll just be giving her space. Honestly I have no clue what else i could’ve done.
Also i’m sorry if I had offended anyone with my post, it truly wasn’t my intention. A lot of people have messaged me that I was being a bit bratty for talking about what I was able to buy. I truly was just providing information and I know that I am very fortunate to be able to afford new clothing and not be stuck with old ones. I also understand that perhaps I come off as very naive or stupid. I’ve seen a lot of people ask similar questions on this subreddit and I wanted advice or any indication that I spoke out of line. I’m getting a lot of threats on here so I thought I’d apologize to anyone I’ve triggered. Im truly sorry.