• kemsat@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Oh no worries, I have sisters & I heard my mom teaching them when I was growing up. So I taught my exes how to do it.

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      5 months ago

      Gah, as I reentered the dating world after a long (looooong) marriage, I experienced this and I am not looking forward to more of this. Glad to see someone else who has sisters and heard “the talk from mom” but at my age (40s), I should not be teaching you the very easy and basic maintenance of your vagina. As we were fooling around I could smell her more and more, and I was polite to the gal and tried to encourage her to use the lady wash setting on my bidet, “it’s a game changer”… “no thanks”. Sigh… sex was mediocre and I was done with that relationship.

      My Ex-wife was never taught proper hygiene and sex was a shunned topic at her home. So when i finally broached the “smell” a few years in (20s), it was a rough time and required counseling for us both. Bidet seats about 18 years ago after a trip to Italy were a marriage/sex saver… well, somewhat. Clearly i’m divorced now, but thats a different issue.

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        5 months ago

        I want to make sure that the average reader knows that if a woman is excited (more and more) you should eventually have a smell. It shouldn’t be fishy or disgusting, but vaginas produce moisture when excited, and that healthy moisture does have a smell.

        Unfortunately I have very small labia so I had to learn a lot about how not to expose the area to soap or too much water.

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          5 months ago

          Good catch and I agree. Once my ex wife took care of herself properly, it was a positive experience for us both.