I’m a software developer with plenty of linux experience but I just want a distro that just works without me having to troubleshoot everything all the time. I am lazy and I just want something easy and reliable. I don’t want an update to break it. But I want the ability to customise it if I want to and the ability to install pretty much everything available easily.
Basically I want MacOS, but as Linux. I’m very hopeful that there’s something I have overlooked!
That’s the whole point. Stability over cutting edge updates - which could potentially break things. The newer the software, the more likely you’re going to be an edge case of something not working as intended. That’s true for any software since it is all a tradeoff. You said you want something very stable, that’s Debian.