DAE Feel the Urge to Connect with an Old Friend Again but at the Same Time Feel Afraid/Relunctant? What do you do in these cases?

Sometimes an old friend randomly pops up in my mind and the thought of catching up with them feels good. But at the same time it feels overwhelming, like I’m stepping out of bounds of some sorts.

Side Note: I’m using Jerboa for Lemmy and I’m not able to do text posts, hence the gorgeous Across the Spider-Verse image. How do I do a text post?

  • Dalek Thal
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    1 year ago

    There are a few people, definitely, that I’ve thought about reaching out to. I have them on Facebook, could literally just send them a text at any moment.

    The problem is twofold: the first; crippling anxiety. I worry that I’d be an inconvenience to them, or worsen their day for my having contacted them. I worry that maybe they never liked me in the first place - after all, they never reached out either.

    The second issue is a general loss of social skills. The pandemic turned me into a hermit, and even though I’ve been in Uni both before the pandemic and after, my social skills have never recovered. I can’t just join a group like other people do. I don’t get on with people super easily in group settings; I’m better in one-on-one situations.

    Certainly, this may just be anxiety. But it’s that what if question that stops me from reaching out.