I’m not your dad – it isn’t my job to make sure you’re not a jerk. I’m not going to stick my fingers into discussions. I grew up with no holds barred internet debate, it’s halal.

You’re not mine – Don’t break my toys. Most moderation actions I’ve ever taken are based on systemic risks such as spam or CP, because I don’t want my toys broken.

Honestly, I had some reports about one of my users being mean to someone I like, and that’s when I had to decide what to do about it. The only answer I could come up with was to say “If they’re bothering you, block them”. It’s dangerous for me to start intervening in arguments like someone’s dad.

If you’re a user here though, keep in mind that if you join communities on other instances you’re representing FBXL Lemmy, and even on the most liberal instances it’s possible to get the whole instance defederated, so don’t walk on eggshells but don’t go picking fights with admins either.