I’m not sure what the problem is. If she is effectively your roommate, is paying rent, cooks her own meals, and keeps up with her side of chores, etc. she can be there as often as she wishes. If she’s staying there for free you might have some ground to stand on but at the same time, she’s an adult with her own life. You can request that you guys have some time together but I don’t know that it’s fair or realistic to expect her to do anything she isn’t interested in doing. If you don’t like how she lives her life maybe she isn’t compatible with you as a roommate. But expecting people to…be around…isn’t really a thing. What boundary exactly is she breaking?

This is why lots of people choose not to have friends as roommates. It doesn’t look how you expect it to and can tarnish the relationship.

There’s no way I’m going to read all of that but I scanned it and caught a “I have many gay friends” and said ayup, there it is.

You know you’re doing the right thing when you have to instruct your employees not to wear your brand to avoid confrontation.

Well it sounds like most of us really can’t! She’s probably just having a moment of irrationality as we all do from time to time. There’s probably something else going on but I doubt it’s worth it to try to figure it out.

Did she say why she was upset? Is she worried she’s eating too many? Just that she thought it was a prank and not nice?

I don’t think you’re an AH, but it does sound like your wife might be insecure about how much chocolate she’s been eating. I’m picturing her telling herself “I’ll let myself eat this much but then I’m back on a diet!” Or something to that effect. Then come to learn you’ve been foiling her plan in the background. Which is also something someone who is insecure about stuff might not want to say: that they are on a diet or worried about eating too much.

All just a bunch of assuming.

I really really enjoyed the second one in particular.

I already got duped by the BBC radio version because I thought it was one of those book bundles–is it worth listening? I have to read the rest of the series before starting so I’m curious if it’s worth it.

Big. Fat. Hen.

Which is fine because you can join another.

I relate to this, I am in a number of support groups on Reddit. I ended up just making the knitting community here because I didn’t know what I was doing and now I’m a mod. I really want to set up a c/stopdrinking community here but that’s a mod role I am not willing to take on.